Kellyanne Conway Demonstrates How NOT to Be a Supportive Wife

Kellyanne Conway Demonstrates How NOT to Be a Supportive Wife March 20, 2019

I wasn’t invited to the Conway wedding, but I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest that somewhere in the ceremony, there were words like this:

“Do you, Kellyanne, take George to be your lawful husband? Will you love him, honor and keep him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others keep only unto him so long as you both shall live?”

Kellyanne:  “I will. I Kellyanne take you, George, to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health while we both shall live.”

We all know marriages don’t always hold to such standards, unfortunately. That being said, has there ever been a more public breakdown of communication between a married couple than what is going on between the Conways?

The two could not be further apart, when it comes to their publicly stated opinions about Kellyanne’s boss, President Trump.

Kellyanne Conway has become infamous, not for her current position, but because it is apparently in her job description to lie, lie often, and raise the outrageousness of each new lie with every interview.

Some networks have questioned the wisdom in even having her on, if her only purpose would appear to be promoting the latest sloppily-constructed misinformation emerging from the White House.

On the other side is husband George, who has come out as a particularly harsh and consistent critic of Trump.

For as wonderful as Kellyanne claims Trump to be, George has turned pointing out how very awful the president is into an art form.

Recently, in the thick of Trump’s Twitter nastiness towards deceased Republican Senator John McCain, George Conway posted a page from the DSM-5, which is the diagnostic manual used by mental health professionals to diagnose mental or personality disorders.

This is the page, describing the signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, posted by Conway:

In the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), [1] NPD is defined as comprising a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by the presence of at least 5 of the following 9 criteria:

  • A grandiose sense of self-importance

  • A preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

  • A belief that he or she is special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions

  • A need for excessive admiration

  • A sense of entitlement

  • Interpersonally exploitive behavior

  • A lack of empathy

  • Envy of others or a belief that others are envious of him or her

  • A demonstration of arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes

At least 5.

So, does that remind you of anyone?

It apparently caught George Conway’s attention.

For mental health professionals, it is not advisable to make a diagnosis without interviewing a potential client, but George Conway is not a mental health professional, so he’s not bound by such restrictions.

Also, in order to first begin the process of diagnosis, there must be some identifiable symptoms that first raise concerns, right?

Hence the reason for the DSM-5.

Some historic narcissistic personalities would be Napoleon Bonaparte, Alexander the Great, and Adolph Hitler.

While George Conway didn’t call Trump Hitler, apparently, just the suggestion that the president is mentally unwell set him off.

Trump began to insult George Conway, calling him a “loser,” and suggesting that his wife, Kellyanne, had worked with Trump in denying him a job with the administration.

“George Conway, often referred to as Mr. Kellyanne Conway by those who know him, is VERY jealous of his wife’s success & angry that I, with her help, didn’t give him the job he so desperately wanted,” Trump tweeted Wednesday morning. “I barely know him but just take a look, a stone cold LOSER & husband from hell!”

Trump later on Wednesday took the Twitter feud offline, telling reporters that George Conway is a “whack job” and doing a “tremendous disservice to a wonderful wife.”

That part was pretty low.

As it was, Trump was lying. Again.

George Conway was actually offered a job with the Justice Department, to serve as the Assistant Attorney General for the Civil Division, in May 2017.

At the time, and for whatever reason, he still had cordial feelings for the newly minted Trump administration. In a letter to the president, however, he politely declined the offer.

“I am profoundly grateful to you and to the Attorney General for selecting me to serve as Assistant Attorney General for the Civil Division of the Department of Justice,” Conway wrote to Trump in the letter. “I have reluctantly concluded, however, that, for me and my family, this is not the right time for me to leave the private sector and take on a new role in the federal government.”

Wow. He turned down a government position for the sake of his family.

What a concept.

And speaking of family, you have to wonder how Kellyanne is feeling about the president striking so hard at her husband.

It’s almost like she has a choice to make.

On Wednesday, she seemed to make it, when she firmly defended Donald Trump.

“He left it alone for months out of respect for me,” Conway, a senior Trump aide, told POLITICO in a brief telephone interview. “But you think he shouldn’t respond when somebody, a non-medical professional accuses him of having a mental disorder? You think he should just take that sitting down?”

“Don’t play psychiatrist any more than George should be,” she added. “You’re not a psychiatrist and he’s not, respectfully.”

“Respectfully” is a funny term to tack on to what is basically an act of throwing your husband under the bus.

“The president is obviously defending me,” she said. “He could privately say to me, ‘Honey you’re a distraction. We love you. You’ll always be a part of the family but go be with your kids. They need you. Go make a million dollars an hour. Go do that honey.’ It’s the opposite.”

Indeed, the Conways are considered a Washington power couple, but the rumor is that Kellyanne is taking on some of her boss’ worst characteristics, as she and Trump both tell others on the Hill that her husband is jealous of her success.

Given her interview with Politico, it’s not hard to believe.

When questioned about the affect of her husband’s Twitter proclamations against Trump on her ability to work in the Trump administration:

“Why would it affect my job? Hasn’t everybody tried to push me out already and here I am, stronger than ever,” she said. “You’re looking at it the wrong way.”

“Yesterday George spent the day tweeting about the president,” she noted. “I spent my day doing two one-hour briefings with press and intergovernmental affairs people, agency people from all across the country and then over an hour briefing that I led in the Oval Office with the president and first lady in the cabinet on opioids at one year, so this is what I do here. I think it probably looks differently if everybody is turning into ‘Gossip Girl.’”

It’s an intriguing dynamic.

Some are promoting a rumor that this is a massive ruse by the Conways, with both being full-blown Trumpkins, but there doesn’t seem to be any rational thought process behind that particular theory.

How does anyone benefit from it?

I have an alternate theory that if there is any ruse, it is with Kellyanne Conway.

Kellyanne was not always a Trump loyalist. Before he won the GOP nomination, she was, herself, a strong critic and warned any who would listen against voting for him.

When he won and offered her a job, her tune changed.

In my alternate theory, what goes on in the Conway home is a mutual disgust with the president. Kellyanne Conway agrees with her husband, but plays the role to keep her position.

Meanwhile, multiple sources have pointed to Kellyanne Conway as the leak within the Trump White House (a claim she denies).

I just can’t help but think of the anonymous op-ed writer who told the public that there were still adults in the White House, shielding the nation from Trump’s worst impulses and ignorance of the job he holds.

Meanwhile, you have to wonder why Donald Trump would go out of his way to make things tense for the couple.

That’s an easy question.

For starters, Trump has no respect for the institution of marriage. His three marriages and numerous affairs is proof of that.

Also, he does what he does because it is what is in his heart and nature to do. He is a cruel, cold, vindictive creature. He would destroy a family, rip apart parents and children without a second thought.

He has a habit of this sort of thing. Whether he was insulting Ted Cruz’s wife, threatening Michael Cohen’s family, or any number of other attacks, where he brought in someone’s family and made them a part of his grudges.

He attacks when he could let things go, not because he’s “a fighter,” but because he is a petulant, mean-spirited coward.

How the Conways and their children weather this period in their lives remains to be seen, but if Trump has his way, George Conway will suffer the loss of his family as payment for his insolence.




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  • The last time I saw Kellyanne on cable news, she appeared to be inebriated. She was belligerent and not making any sense at all. In other words she was the complete personification of Donald Trump.

    I don’t believe Kellyanne is some covert operative, she is acting no different than all the other Branch Trumpidians who have drank the Cheetos flavored Kool-Aid. They are willing to sacrifice unceasingly their friends, family, and principles at the alter of Trump. .

    To understand why this is, one of the leaders of America’s Second Great Awakening wrote:

    This alienation of heart; those bitter revilings I formerly mentioned as our sin; I would now mention them as a most deplorable calamity, and as an evident and awful proof of the Lord’s controversy with us. It is an old proverb uttered by an infallible teacher, that “a house divided against itself cannot stand.” When we see a particular family split up into factions; each member torturing the feelings, or crucifying the character, or opposing the interests of the other, we conclude without hesitancy that the Lord has departed from that house, and that its desolation is near. It is not less true of nations than of particular families; unite and you establish; divide and you destroy. When Jehovah denounced the overthrow of Egypt for their contempt of his name, and the cruelties which they had perpetrated upon his people, he declares, “I will set the Egyptians against the Egyptians, and they shall fight every man against his neighbor; city against city, and kingdom against kingdom.” May we not therefore consider our internal dissensions and distractions as “coming forth from the Lord of hosts.” and as his righteous judgment Upon our guilty land? Are we not constrained to deplore in the plaintive language of the prophet, “the anger of the Lord hath divided us; Manasseh against Ephraim, and Ephraim against Manasseh, and they together shall be against Judah.” ~Alexander Proudfit, A Series of Discourses on the Leading Doctrines and Duties of Christianity (Volume 3)

  • Mother124
  • chemical

    DSM-V, Narcissistic Personality Disorder symptoms:

    * A need for excessive admiration

    I’m laughing right now, as this is THE defining characteristic of Donald Trump. His ego is insatiable, to the point where he co-opted nearly the entire Evangelical Christian movement to get them to worship him instead of God, and he’s the only president to hold campaign rallies after he won the election. My only complaint is “excessive” is far too weak of a word to describe the admiration Trump craves.

  • IllinoisPatriot

    Have you forgotten about Trump’s first televised staff meeting where his cabinet officers took turns licking his …. (boots) and kissing his …. (ring) ?

    I hope never to see another such dismal display of so-called “leaders” debasing themselves so thoroughly and pathetically in worship to a man’s ego and vanity.

    Any true leader would have stepped in and stopped the pathetic display after the first few words from the first boot-licker.

    Fortunately, most of those Trump appointees present at the meeting are now gone. Unfortunately, they have been replaced by more Trump appointees that received far less scrutiny during their confirmations and (since Trump’s staff meetings are now private affairs – if they are still held at all), are doing their boot-licking behind the scenes where no press or other individuals can witness and expose their devotion to their orange godlet.

  • JASmius

    KAC is a political consultant. All political consultants are mercenaries to some degree or another. One will go to work for one pol, singing his praises and wielding his “hatchet,” and then later on go to work for that pol’s bitterest intra-party rival and do the same in turn. It’s part of the job description.

    I think that, for all of Donald Trump’s fame, for all of his outrageous, flamboyant, braggadocios public reputation, GOP political consultants, including KAC, thought that it had, to some degree, to be an act. That there was no way that Trump could really be the tabloid-esque scoundrel that he portrayed himself as for public consumption. That, in private, he was an at least semi-normal human being, and if he actually, somehow, by whatever means got elected president of the United States, that he would sober up, get serious, and rise to the office he had attained. At least enough to function adequately in the job.

    But once there, once appointed a White House “senior counselor,” KAC, just like every other Republican, discovered to her horror that there really was no “grown-up” version of Trump who could “act more presidential than you’ve ever seen”. The public Trump and the private Trump were the same Trump. He actually was and is the nine levels of narcissistic hell that he’s always appeared to be to the country for the past forty years.

    But the man was now POTUS. And he had all the power. And KAC was soooooo close to it. So she sold her soul. Her husband decided to keep his and turn down the plumb DOJ job offer Trump dangled in front of him. It’s sure looking like he made the right choice and she made the wrong one. What that will do to their marriage is anybody’s guess. But one thing you can say for George Conway: For a man who looks as goofy as he does to possibly be risking his marriage to take the patriotic stand he’s taking, he is infinitely more secure and possesses orders of magnitude more self-confidence and self-respect than Donald Trump will ever possess.

  • Cousin_Ken

    Dear Donny D.S.,

    Hasn’t any LE warned you away from domestic disputes?
    What God hath joined together let no man put asunder.