How to Bring Order to Your Relationship

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You matter. What you feel and think. Your boundaries and expectations. Your hopes and dreams. It is all important and needs to be communicated to your partner.

But if there is not a vision to hold your expressions up against, your relationship will devolve into a competition. My expressions versus theirs. And we will find ourselves demanding more and more the validation of our own expressions while becoming increasingly desensitized and oblivious to our partner’s.

Said another way, without a clear vision, our emotions become our vision. And when two people have two competing visions, the relationship becomes a war.

With a vision established, either person’s thoughts, feelings, and ideas becomes a mechanism by which the vision is achieved. It is an ingredient in the recipe, meant to be added to and mixed with the other legitimate, applicable ingredients.

Understanding the current reality within your relationship is essential. But without a vision to measure it against, we can become lost in an ever-changing, biased, and incomplete focus on one moment in time.