Your Traumaland: 4 Easy Steps to Surviving Life’s Challenges

“Being at odds with yourselves is self-defeating.”

~Kathleen O-Keefe-Kanavos


 Sometimes you don’t know what you are made of until you start to fall apart and your best parts pop out and hold you together. Those best parts often make their appearances in dreams, meditations and prayers.  We are made up of so much more than id, ego and super-ego. Yes, bad things do happen to good people. That is life on earth. If every day were a perfect day with no challenges we’d already be in heaven.  But, you don’t have to be a victim of circumstances. You can be victorious over circumstances. This article explores in depth the 4 steps we can all use to have a victorious life. And we possess the innate ability to use them.

They are:



  • Listen
  • Connect
  • Accept
  • Learn



Sounds simple, doesn’t it? It is! Like life, these steps are as easy or complex as you choose to make them. So choose to use them to live a more fulfilling life.



I.)  Connecting to our Inner-guidance can transform us from Victim of  Circumstance to Victorious Over Circumstances.




I embarked on a similar journey to Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland when I fell down the rabbit hole of Traumaland. As a child I had been encouraged to suppress my intuitive gifts of hearing voices, drawing auras, and seeing the dead in my waking and sleeping hours because these were “gifts” no one else in my social circle thought they possessed. They didn’t realize that having a deceased-loved-one visit and speak to them in their dreams during their time of stress was an intuitive gift, too. It was a gift from a Higher Power during their time of need to guide them toward success in life. There is an old saying that says “Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.” Gifts come in many forms. Learn to just say thank you.




It was not until I started kindergarten that I realized my gifts were deemed unacceptable in school or church. So I complied with conventional teachings/social pressures and locked them away in the depths of my mind. I ignored my spirit-guides and repeated to myself what I had been taught, “Voices are a bad figment of your imagination. Angels and spirit-guides don’t speak to little girls.”   However, when my life was threatened by misdiagnosis and Hospital Policy my spirit-guides blew off the doors of their cell and flew to my rescue. Rather than being a victim of circumstances, I reconnected with my guides, self-advocated by standing in my power and speaking my truth and became an active participant in my struggle for life. Victory was at hand.





My guides lead me through the tunnel of crisis and out the other side to success. Illness is a vehicle that drives the bigger story of my survival against all odds while locked in the relationship triangle between my marriage and health crisis, the spirit world, and the medical community. Which would be the victor? My health challenges or my desire to live. And how could I, or anyone else, become victorious? The answer is to connect with your Inner-connections/guidance.



Return for part 2 of this 4 part article. We will discuss in depth techniques that are innately available to all of us and that can be helpful in connecting with our inner-selves and spirit-guides for personal guidance.



This article is a compilation of context taken from the book SURVIVING TRAUMALAND: The Intuitive Aspects of Healing by Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos.




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