A Marriage That Lasts

What if God didn’t design marriage to be “easier”? What if God had an end in mind that went beyond our happiness, our comfort, and our desire to be infatuated and happy as if the world were a perfect place? –Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage   One of the greatest fallacies we buy into is that there is the “perfect” person out there just waiting to make us happy for the rest of our lives if we can only find them…. Read more

When a Man Dies Instead of You

 Looking for a powerful book to read? New York Times bestselling author Adam Makos and I have just released our new book. It’s titled VOICES OF THE PACIFIC—the long awaited oral-history project featuring untold stories from the Marine heroes of WWII. The stories are raw and often desperate, yet they provide a real life look into an incredibly dark time of the past.   Over the next few weeks I’ll be offering you a special glimpse inside the covers of the book…. Read more

Are sermons becoming obsolete?

The live lecture is disappearing. Only two institutions still regularly offer them: universities and churches. Read more

When Men Don’t Control Themselves

I love watching football.  I used to love playing it when I was in high school.  Football is an emotionally intensive game.  Most coaches encourage players to play with a high level of emotion because it amplifies a player’s ability to perform.  However, I have noticed a trend among many players today, even professionals.  These players play at such a high emotional level that they cannot control themselves.  Their uncontrolled emotional responses on the field often lead to dumb penalties… Read more

One Simple Switch that Guarantees Results

What’s the best way to ask somebody for something—a way that guarantees results?   It seldom works well to order, threaten, cajole, wheedle, or beg. Studies have shown that the best way to request things of people, inspire them, or motivate them to action is to ask honestly, directly, and clearly.   Could you please pass the salt?   But … here’s where the art form of requesting surfaces.   Linguistics note that could is a highly loaded word, similar… Read more

Stogies for Jesus

God is at work at City Place Cigar in Lynchburg, VA. Here’s a letter from Bob Miller, the proprietor: Dear Mr. Murrow, I’ve just finished reading “Why Men Hate Going To Church”. In my professional life, I’ve been an executive pastor, restaurateur, marketing and ministry (church planting) consultant and university professor. My wife and I have been married for over 30 years, we have four adult daughters, four amazing sons-in-law, and four highly intelligent and good-looking grandchildren. Being involved in… Read more

How to Get More Sex From Your Marriage

I was recently asked to speak at a large men’s conference. Besides speaking from the main stage I was scheduled to give two breakout sessions. One of the breakout sessions was on the topic of my newest book, Becoming Your Spouse’s Better Half. Upon arriving at the venue I discovered from the participant guide that the event producers had advertised this workshop as “how to get more sex in your marriage.” Needless to say, about 780 out of the 800… Read more

How to Survive Intense Shelling

1.  Have you ever experienced intense shelling?   Shelling, in this case, is picture language for when life’s difficulties slam into you one right after another.   In seasons of intense shelling, the pressure never lets up, and the stress is relentless. You feel stuck in the battle, and the battle never seems to end. You can’t flee to safety. And you can’t fight your way out.   What then?   Envision with me some actual shelling. Get a picture… Read more

Easter Services and Men

Many churches see their highest attendance on Easter Sunday. The pews are packed with folks who don’t normally come. Many of these infrequent guests are men, dragged to church by their wives and mothers. How can your church make an impact on these skittish men? Of course, you need to get the spiritual elements in place first: pray for the service and those who will attend. Spend extra time to prepare good music. Be sure the sermon will resonate with… Read more

Why You Chose Your Spouse

Did you ever wonder why you were attracted to the person you were, and why they were attracted to you? Not only that, but remember how exciting it was when you first met your spouse-to-be? Life was fun and you felt alive! What was that all about? Harville Hendrix, in his classic book Getting the Love You Want, explains what happens during the attraction phase of a relationship: The brain releases dopamine and norepinephrine, two of the body’s many neurotransmitters…. Read more