Crashing, and hard

I have had a long summer and I’m feeling frayed.  I’m back from my last trip and while it was good, I’ve got the shakes and I’m extra super double plus sensitive. I’m coming down from constantly being on the go or being in between trips, holding space for many others, and keeping it together for just one more day/week/trip. I’m on the verge of a melt down, I think. It’s been a long time coming. I feel physically exhausted and bloated and sore. I’m mentally overwhelmed with the long list of things that Need Attending, things I’ve had to put off for 6 weeks. Emotionally, I’m frayed and fearful – I also have Things that Need Attending emotionally. I feel exposed and vulnerable – mostly because I don’t have my reserves. Which leads me to spiritually: I feel empty. I haven’t had a lot of space, within or without, for practice. Lately when I try to meditate I start nodding off to sleep and then jerking upright because I’m about to tilt over.

I wish I had something Certain and Sure to fall back on. I want that certainty that fundamentalists have. I want to feel filled up inside. I wish I had a single concrete practice or tradition to fall back on. Even though I feel stronger in my beliefs, hopes, practices than ever after this past year. Diving in and practicing, really trying things on with deepest sincerity and effort, has been incredibly informative and empowering, but it’s hard. When I’m tired like this I just want to be told what to do. I want to know that if I pray These Words, light This Incense, cast This Spell, or whatever, that I’ll feel amazing and connected, and powerful once again.

But I know that after being so taxed on all levels, in all my parts, that I have to abandon all my efforts. That’s right: abandon. I have to rest. I have to pare down It’s more than getting ‘back to basics.’ Maybe today I sit for 5 minutes and take a bath. Tomorrow I sit for 6 minutes and offer incense and say a short prayer. Pick one or two simple things. Just as I pick one task off the List of Things That Need Attending to do every day. Eventually my equilibrium will come back. one day, maybe next week, or in two or three weeks, I’ll realize that I’ve sat for 20 minutes and done my full routine without realizing it. Eventually I’ll feel Inspired and do some ritual and will feel connected. Maybe it’ll happen while I’m cooking or putting one of my kids to sleep or while walking down the street, but it will happen. Right now I feel like all of that is ages away. I feel dried out, spent, and my belly hurts.

One act at a time, coupled with exquisite self-care (more sleep, less caffeine, light eating, lots of deep breathing, more exercise, etc.) is my plan.

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About Niki Whiting
  • http://myspiritualretreat.wordpress.com gypsycoyote

    Even though I have not been on the go for the past while, I understand how you feel. Physically, I have been home – but my mind has been racing because of financial troubles. I’ve felt disconnected from my practices lately because of this racing and the fear it brings. <3

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/awitchsashram myownashram

      Good luck to you. I hope you can find some peace. Financial troubles are so destabilizing.

      • http://myspiritualretreat.wordpress.com gypsycoyote

        And I hope you can find some peace too <3 Thank you :D We have been through this before, but never so hard as this – and this time we have the kids to think about, not just ourselves. But that you again. :D

  • http://gravatar.com/vcwillow vcwillow

    I haven’t been doing any of my spiritual practises lately (over the last 6 months +) on a regular basis because my head has been busy and my mind has been whirling. I was thinking this week about setting up an ancestors altar and meditating for a while, but each night I was more exhausted than the night before and each day seems to slip pass, increasing my disconnection and hence my busy head, making me less inclined to participate in ritual or meditation. I know that this weekend is a chance to start reconnecting with myself, my spirituality and an opportunity to find once more my balance.

    Take it one day at a time and slowly reconnect with your spiritual self, if easy words and answer were what you were really seeking you would be on a very different path than the one you are on now.



    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/awitchsashram myownashram

      It is true! If I was seeking easy answers I would likely be a fundamentalist myself. Thank you for the encouragement – I need it today! And right back at you! I hope you can get your altar set up and find some connection, too.

  • epymetheus

    I love you. Rest well.

  • Elaine

    Niki, lovely woman, I feel for you. I have been in a similar space and am just beginning to surface. It is hard for us “driven” people to rest. But rest is what is needed, follow your instincts, pare things down, expect nothing of yourself for a while – just be. Be kind to yourself and breathe, that is enough. Taking care of yourself and your family is perhaps enough “practise” for now. Love you loads, and sending you warmth and rest. xxxx

  • http://iris365.wordpress.com Rebecka

    today, we can only do what we can do. no machine, no matter how amazing, can run on full steam forever. everything needs down time and maintenance, and even with both of those, sometimes things break down. and that’s okay.