Inside Our Inbox: Kellie’s New Toy

Lest this blog succumb to the temptation of presenting only a picture-perfect, carefully-edited facade…

We have decided to post email conversations of ours from time to time. This blog began five years ago as an extension of our ongoing email chats about all the big and small thoughts and happenings that punctuate our days. Through emails, we have shared inspirations and sorrows, lots of laughs and way too much information (in fact, we have unofficially nicknamed it the “TMI Listserve”) and, most of all, the bond of sisterhood in Christ across the miles.

So, with a double shot of reality and just a touch of (necessary) censoring, we take you… Inside Our Inbox.

Kellie’s New Toy


My new iphone just arrived in the box, and it looks so cute I don’t want to open it?  Does this mean–

a)  I need to think about having another baby because I’m giving baby like attributes to a new device
b)  I’ve been deprived of a smart phone for so long that I’m a little nutty
c)  I have some guilt about getting such a nice phone
d)  I am intimidated by technology and don’t want to mess anything up
e)  all of the above!


Juris Mater:

f) your spirit and your humanity and recoil at a piece of electronic equipment that will tempt you to flee opportunities for contemplation, to objectify your relationships, to increase the pace of your life, to set more expectations, and generally to anesthetize yourself through the moments that make life most real.

Anti-technology as always, JM

Mary Alice:

Step one, turn off all alerts and notifications. For three months, mine dinged every time I got an email. Not necessary.


step one, open box — still unable to do this because the box is so cute!

step two–turn off all alerts and notifications

step three–order childproof/bulletproof/waterproof case so expensive phone is not destroyed

step four–apologize to Juris Mater for joining the 21st century.  (actually, I’m getting this one out of the way first, see below)

step five– consider getting a pet if I keep thinking inanimate things are “cute”

My dearest Juris Mater,

I do feel badly about leaving you behind, but I’ve decided to join the 21st century and stop calling my husband every time a practice or game changes location at the last minute.   I was the only mom on most teams unable to get an e-mail notification once I had already left the house, and NO the coach never remembered to give me call or send a text to let me know that I didn’t need to do that extra driving.  So I would call my poor husband at any sign of rain.  I admit that I was forced to make this choice because my old phone died when a sippy cup spilled on it and covered it in water.  I didn’t want to pay the extra money, but, by divine providence, I’m switching providers and my new plan is actually going to be $10 cheaper per month, only $30.  I tried to get a cheap flip phone, but my husband insisted that I get an iphone and let him do his job, and I’m terrible with technology and he didn’t want the trouble of trying to get all my mac stuff (I use mac for everything) onto another operating system.  It was with obedience and respect that I submitted to his wishes and purchased a cute, adorable, helpful, life-enhancing device.

I do hope we can remain friends.  I promise not to abuse my device.  I may even set an alarm on said device to remind me of times for quiet reflection and catching up with friends.  I will remember to visit you often, in your quiet 20th century abode.  And I will cherish the fond memories we had chatting on our old flip phones. How could I ever forget our chats about labor and NFP and about whether a second line on a pregnancy test always means you are pregnant?


Queen B:

Please visit me too.  my “vintage” flip phone keeps me tucked contentedly in the nineteenth–or is it eighteenth–century.  No, I am not stand-offish, I just don’t get texts when you send them!  This is valuable information, especially for anyone who might be trying to communicate me during reunions 😉  Thank goodness T gets them on his iPhone and is happy to pass info along to me 🙂

Back to nursing….

So happy for you, Kellie 🙂

Love, Queen B

Juris Mater:

Hilarious Kellie. Have fun with your new toy. Tell me when you start letting your kids play Angry Birds during Mass, and if you ever tire of friendships consisting of terse tweets on a blinking screen, my SLIDER phone (I upgraded from flip, yo) will be standing by…

Queen B, yeah sister, fight the power.


Kellie, I got a smart phone for the exact same reason, I had too many cloudy days when I called my husband from an empty baseball parking lot to find out whether practice was cancelled.  We figured that given his billing rate, it was inefficient for him to be my secretary!…

Also, the free Kindle App, and then a lot of older classic books are free or 99 cents as e-books, and you can adjust the font size, so you (and by extension your kids) always have an entire library in your purse.  It’s not all angry birds, Ms. Juris Mater…

P gets an iPad for school next year, I think it is pretty tightly controlled (no games, limited internet) but it will be interesting.

Texas Mommy:

I also didn’t want an iphone (my instructions to Mr. Tex were “get whatever is free”) but he came home with one for me b/c he wanted to be able to facetime with the boys when he’s out of town. They love being able to see him and show him things (a found duck egg or the baby’s tooth) via facetime and he can show them the scenery/sights where he is, etc.

Also, I really appreciate instantaneous information when Mr. Tex is gone. Heathrow was shut down this morning when he was supposed to land there for a plane on fire for a not immediately determinable reason and he was able to let me know right away that his flight was diverted to Gatwick so he was not part of the emergency shut down. This saved me a ton of stress and worry!


I’m also late to the techie email discussion, but congrats, Kel, on your new device.  Now you can navigate DC without a paper map!  I’m excited for you.  I am still in slide phone world, enjoying my limited tech when we’re out.  I’m taking AWOL Mommy’s advice and continuing to flee temptation.

So, there you have it. Devices: tools, toys, or temptations?

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  • Kathleen

    Temptation!!! My husband gave me his old iPhone when he got a new one for work. This more than any technology has changed my relationship with technology. I check it constantly and am always giving myself resolutions to hide it etc. we’ve decided to switch providers and I am going to go back to the archaic flip phone. I have really struggled with it.
    Also ppl start to expect a certain amount of availability either through text or email. It’s at least for me too much.
    I will miss the map app, that was awesome.

  • BTW, I ordered the Griffin Survivor case for my phone ( It is bright pink, waterproof (up to 6 feet of water for 30 minutes!), and can sustain up to 2 tons of force. And it was only $29.99 on amazon. Yes it’s bulky, but that’s the point!

  • Juris Mater

    One Device to rule them all, One Device to find them,
    One Device to bring them all and in the darkness bind them.

    Don’t say I didn’t warn you, My Precious. You’ll need your stylish case in the caves under the Misty Mountains.

    (My kids are living and breathing Tolkien these days : ))

  • My kids can listen to Tolkien or read it on my device. Zing!

  • Juris Mater

    Is “Zing” some new techie phrase/are you already starting to communicate in beeps and dings? That happened fast.

    And it’s so much more magical to read Tolkien from bound pages than from a blinking screen. When we all get our brain chips implanted one day soon, we won’t have to know how to read, the story will just transmit itself from our brain chips into our brains telepathically. What a quality of life improvement that will be.

  • Sara

    Too funny! I love my iPhone but I find that I sometimes need to put it out of sight in the kitchen cabinet so I will stop checking it! I find that I abuse it most on my bad days and want to escape. However, my escape should be prayer not my iPhone 🙂

  • Jen Minson

    The Laudate App is fantastic with prayers and the daily readings

  • Angela

    That’s a incredible rate, Kellie. I am contemplating ditching my Droid when the contract is up (trying to economize), but I do appreciate the convenience of a smart phone when out and about and traveling and wouldn’t mind getting an iPhone if I could get a better rate. What carrier are you with?

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  • Bethany

    Sara, I fear I would be the same way. Smart of you to ditch the smart phone in the cabinet!!

  • Bethany

    Kathleen, I hear you, girl. Just get a Garmin for the car and you’ll be set for maps. My slide phone and Garmin can get me through most things these days and without tempting me beyond my limits…

  • JMB

    So sweet and funny! My oldest is almost 18 and I couldn’t survive without my IPhone, Now I am never on my computer, just the phone. It’s a lot easier, because I just ignore all the emails in my inbox. If it’s really important, it will come as a text:). That said, Period Tracker LIte has changed my life. I no longer have to scribble on a pad when I had my last period. Last time at the doctor, I just whipped out my phone when asked when my last period.