5 Creative Ways To Show Love Without Words

You can actually show love without saying a word. Here are 5 creative ways to do just that.

By Godly Conduct

I certainly understand how this is very politically incorrect today but Peter wrote about a woman’s conduct and we can say that about a man’s conduct in the same that they can draw people to Christ without ever saying a word. How can this be done? Peter writes “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct” (1st Pet 3:1-2). The way in which we live can serve to attract others to Jesus Christ. This has long been the way that unbelieving spouses have come to saving faith. Paul writes about this in 1st Corinthians 7:16 “For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?” Paul wrote about living among the unsaved Jews that the way he lived was “in the hope that I may somehow arouse my own people to envy and save some of them” (Rom 11:14).

By Loving Them

Love is more than a feeling. I would say it is more a verb than a feeling because it is what you do more than what you say. In Ephesians 5:5 Paul writes “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Rare is the woman who doesn’t respect her husband if he loves her like Christ loves the church and would willingly die for her. This might not be an actual case where they give their life for their wife but they sacrifice their own life for her by sacrificing their own desires, their own wants, and their own interests for their wife. In other words, they die to themselves to live for her. Peter writes “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1st Peter 3:7). Peter is not saying that the wife is spiritually or mentally weaker by typically men are stronger than women, but of course there are exceptions to that. Peter’s main point is to show them the respect that they and all women deserve. Paul insinuates this by the way the believing spouse lives their life with the unbelieving spouse (1st Cor 7:16) which I quoted in the paragraph above.

By Being a Servant

Christ, being God, came to serve and not be served. Jesus said “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45) and this was fulfilled on the cross. Further, Jesus said “whoever wants to be first must be slave of all” (Mark 10:44). What more can you do to than to give your life for others and as a ransom from the wrath of God? Jesus said “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13) and laying down one’s life can be in the form of serving someone in need and that means serving to the point of being a slave to others and this means that we “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Phil 2:3).

Being Devoted to One Another

Paul shows another way we can show our love for others without saying a word and that is to “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves” (Rom 12:10) and to “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Eph 5:21) “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” (Col 3:12). Someone who is clothed with humility, gentleness, compassion, and patience never has to say a word because even though clothing never speaks, it can say a lot about a person. To put the capstone on it, Peter writes “Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble” (1st Pet 3:8).

Be a Good Listener

You might be thinking to yourself, I can show love by being a good listener? Yes, you can give people your full attention, showing them that you care about what they are saying and that what they’re saying is important enough to look them in the eye, say not a word, and just listen. Listening is a great skill that takes work. To be a good listener, you need to let them finish their sentence and not interrupt or try to finish their sentence for them. You need to acknowledge that what they are saying has real value, because if they are saying it to you, it is obviously important to them and it’s important enough for them to be telling you and they expect you to listen. It is the polite thing to do but more importantly, it is the loving thing to do.

Conclusion

Showing love doesn’t have to include words because we can be a good, attentive listener; we can esteem and honor others above ourselves and be devoted to others; we can be a silent servant and just serve them without a word; we can love them by our acts of kindness; and we can lead godly lives and by our conduct perhaps lead them to Christ if they are not already saved. More times than not, love is displayed in action, without words. It is a verb. It’s what you do!

Article by Jack Wellman

Jack Wellman is Pastor of the Mulvane Brethren church in Mulvane Kansas. Jack is also the Senior Writer at What Christians Want To Know whose mission is to equip, encourage, and energize Christians and to address questions about the believer’s daily walk with God and the Bible. You can follow Jack on Google Plus or check out his book Blind Chance or Intelligent Design available on Amazon.