Sex has become something bourgeois. Not that the proletariat ever experience sex mind you, but the real act is saved for those who can afford to talk about it. In high school sex is a sort of perverse social currency whereby someone’s acceptance is measure and defined by the quantity of partners they have experienced intercourse with. To talk about sex in this context is not only anticipated but is also encouraged. But, what happens when sex becomes nothing more than a transgression? As in, “thou shalt not have sex (outside) of marriage?” (I don’t remember there being a verse for this by the way).
I remember growing up thinking a book by a guy named Joshua Harris (I Kissed Dating Goodbye) was going to help relieve me of any need for relationships, instead what it did (like a lot of current theology on the subject) is transformed something life-giving (dating & sex) into an act of guilt, essentially sex became its own antithesis to the point that books like this (among many others) infected sexuality with transgressive theology.