As we finish off the first month of a new year, I wanted to take a little time to center on an often-overlooked topic in the faith deconstruction process–how do we tend to our souls and spiritual lives when we’re in the midst of so much upheaval? Sure, many of us might be allergic to some old spiritual practices, but are there new ones we can try that might help us feel less lonely and disconnected to God in the… Read more

We all know Christianity is certainly in an interesting season. The divides are great. The mass exodus from “going to church” continues. The number of men and women of all shapes and sizes and ages and experiences now Unraveling in their faith keeps growing. The political party leap-frog game from Republican to Democrat or Independent is hotter than ever. I personally think it’s a good thing. While some see it as a decline in our moral fabric or a complacency or… Read more

I haven’t written much here in this past season, but it’s been a wild several weeks learning of my dad’s cancer diagnosis and moving him in with us from California for hospice care. We are grateful to have this time with him, and we have great support from our Refuge community and  family but it’s been a wild few weeks. I have shared a few posts on my personal blog that reflect some of my sentiments from Thanksgiving to today,… Read more

Part of finding our way forward through a faith shift is celebrating what was and also acknowledging what is no longer part of this next chapter in our story.  It’s easy to evaluate some of these things as good or bad, but often they are just neutral.  We used to do and believe certain things and now we don’t. Sometimes it’s a really helpful exercise to respect where were were and where are now. It’s about recognizing and giving language… Read more

Healing from a radical shift in faith is a raw and weird process. Everyone navigates it differently, but one thing I’m clear on across our different paths is this:  we have to take extra good care of ourselves in the process. After sometimes learning the hard way what is and isn’t a good idea, here are a few suggestions to consider as we travel this path of losing so much of what we once held dear: 1. Be careful what… Read more

Last week I just didn’t have any words after the Las Vegas massacre.  They completely eluded me, and I shared a brief post on my blog. For now, that’s all I’ve got as I wrestle with the tangled up feelings inside related to guns and violence and the current state of our nation. Meanwhile, I will keep sharing about what this Patheos blog is centered on–shifting faith. A few years ago I made up a new word. In a conversation… Read more

In the earlier days of my faith, knowing who was and wasn’t a “Christian” was a big deal to me. There was something attached to it that was comforting, familiar, certain. When I look back on those years, “Is he/she a Christian?” would come up in countless ways–related to teachers, doctors, family members, auto mechanics, friends, you name it. Now, if I hear that phrase–“Is he/she a Christian?”  I often feel myself tense up and my skin get a little… Read more

Is it possible to rebuild something again related to faith? Are there some things we could try to bring new life? What kind of hope lies on the other side of a painful unraveling? These are the questions so many people I know are asking. After walking through some of the major movements of Faith Shift: Finding Your Way Forward When Everything You Believe is Coming Apart–Fusing, Shifting, Returning, Unraveling, and Severing–we are now to one of the trickiest parts, Rebuilding…. Read more

So far I’ve walked through these major movements from Faith Shift here: the certainty, conformity, and affiliation of Fusing, the rumbles of Shifting, some of the reasons for Returning, and the losses of Unraveling as we move toward greater authenticity, autonomy, and uncertainty in our faith. Reality is we could spend months processing through each of these, but that’s what the book is for! My hope was to get the framework up here so that it’s in one place for folks… Read more

  I haven’t written anything in the past few weeks. And oh, there has been a lot to write about. Hurricane Harvey, the ongoing onslaught of policies from this political administration, The Nashville Statement. Yeah, on Monday during Hurricane Harvey, a group of powerful conservative evangelical leaders thought it would be great timing to inject a damaging and harmful document into the world concerning LGBQT+. Really? Right now? That’s what they thought was good leadership? But the answer is yes;… Read more

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