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Thank you. You may have saved my life. Or at the very least, the life of a troll I’ve been dealing with.
Frank – I totally agree. I was actually going to write an article on this when I had time. I found the same three groups. Thanks for saving me the time.
Good stuff, Frank. It’s important to distinguish between the types of critics and respond accordingly.
Yes, I think there are different degrees of each. Severe objectors and generous objectors, for instance. The difference between an objector and a troll is that the objector is honest. They aren’t trying to misrepresent or destroy and they don’t resort to ad hominem attacks.
I wonder if there is a category somewhere between “objectors” and “trolls”. I’m not sure how to describe it, but I feel like I’ve seen criticism out there that is part of each of those but doesn’t fit into either category.
Hi Frank, I just want to say thanks for this article, you have really helped me. You have helped me understand the difference, I’m grateful,
Thank you I needed to hear this. Actually I would have loved to hear this back in November 2009. I’d been teaching a Sunday Bible class when the core group of women (Trolls) during the class time hurled threats and verbal assaults at me; all because I’d rearranged the tables and chairs in the class in order to accommodate our new members. That Sunday morning was reminiscent of the shoot-out at the OK coral. I listened to what they said, repeating back to them what they’d said in order for them to know I was listening and so I would understand what they’d said and meant. It was a really bad/hurtful scene. I never raised my voice, I chose my words very carefully. All the while I’m listening to them I’m also praying to God for wisdom. You see—-I was not the teacher they wanted, they wanted a woman to be the teacher that was from their core group, I was an outsider that was shaking things up. Anyway, I forgave them before I left the class that day (I resigned). It did take a while for the hurt to go away. God allowed this to happen to me because there were some things I needed to learn. One of them is it is one thing to follow the Lord when it only affects me, it is another step when other people are affected and they don’t like what changes have taken place. Thanks!