Wisdom from Earl Weaver, the legendary manager of the Baltimore Orioles, who died on January 19. “Until you’re the person that other people fall back on, until you’re the one that’s leaned on, not the person doing the leaning, you’re not an adult.”
Weaver’s words as quoted by sportswriter Thomas Boswell:
“You must remember that anyone under 30 — especially a ballplayer — is an adolescent,” he once told me. “I never got close to being an adult until I was 32. Even though I was married and had a son at 20, I was a kid at 32, living at home with my parents. Sure, I was a manager then. That doesn’t mean you’re grown up.
“Until you’re the person that other people fall back on, until you’re the one that’s leaned on, not the person doing the leaning, you’re not an adult. You reach an age when suddenly you realize you have to be that person. Divorce did it to me. It could be elderly parents, children . . . anything. But one day you realize, ‘It’s me. I’ve got to be the rock.’ ”
I don’t think this is the same as independence–we all depend on others, as Christians well know–but being leaned on, being the rock for someone. . . .That’s an intriguing definition of adulthood. By this standard, I suppose, some people never grow up.
So, if you have attained this stage, at what point did you realize you were an adult?