Barna Research has published a new study on the problems, challenges, and personal life of pastors. ย (You can buy the study here.) ย Among many other findings is that, on the whole, pastors have much happier marriages and much better relationships with their children than typical Americans.
And yet, despite their strong families, pastors report that their ministries have sometimes put a strain on their marriages and children.
From Tyler OโNeil,ย Pastorsโ Joys and Struggles With Family Life:
A recent study from the Barna Research Group found that a vast majority of pastors report high levels of satisfaction with their family lives, but that nearly half of them also admit that ministry has a negative impact on their relationship with spouses and children.
In โThe State of Pastors: How Todayโs Faith Leaders Are Navigating Life and Leadership in an Age of Complexity,โ released last week, the Barna Groupย reported that pastors are far more likely than average U.S. adults to rate their relationship with spouses and children as โexcellent,โ even though a large portion of these ministers say their work has been difficult on their family.
A whopping 70 percent of U.S. pastors said their marriage relationship was โexcellent,โ while 26 percent described it as โgood.โ In the overall population, less than half of U.S. adults (46 percent) ranked their marriage relationship as โexcellent,โ while 35 percent described it as โgood.โ Four times as many Americans (12 percent) as pastors (3 percent) said their marriage was โaverage,โ andย seven times as many Americans (7 percent) as pastors (1 percent) said their marriage was โbelow averageโ or โpoor.โ
A similar trend emerged when pastors and U.S. adults were asked about their relationship with children. A full 60 percent of pastors described their parenting relationship as โexcellent,โ and 36 percent described it as โgood.โ Only 46 percent of U.S. adults said their relationship with their children was โexcellent,โ and only 32 percent described it as โgood.โ Four times as many adults (16 percent) as pastors (4 percent) said their parenting was โaverage,โ and 6 percent of adults (no pastors) described it as โbelow averageโ or โpoor.โ
Yet this pastor family panacea is not without its downsides. Roughly one-quarter of todayโs pastors has faced significant marital problems (26 percent) or parenting problems (27 percent) during ministry tenure. Pastors aged 50 and older are more likely to report these problems.
Nearly half of pastors said that their current church tenure has been difficult on their family. While only 8 percent said this is โcompletely trueโ for them, 40 percent at least acknowledge it is โsomewhat true.โ This means that 48 percent of pastors admit that their current ministry has caused some strain on their family.
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Illustration: ย โLutherโs Familyโ by Gustav Adolph Spangenberg [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons