Of Monks, Conversion, and Radio Astronomy, Part 1

By Richard Cole
Guest Post

In the middle of life, I fell in love. For my forty-ninth birthday, my wife Lauren gave me a three-day visit by myself at a monastery in South Texas. I went there simply to read for a while and relax. I wasn’t a believer in much of anything, I wasn’t religious, and while I was there, I didn’t see any visions or hear voices.

But when I came back, I was on a path. Something had happened. An invisible hand was pressing me in the small of my back, propelling me forward.

At the monastery, I wondered whether the monks would try to convert their guest. I’d been around evangelists before. I kept waiting for someone to approach me with a carnivorous twinkle in his eye and ask, “Are you saved, my son?”

But nobody put the bite on me, and nobody tried to muscle me into the fold. Instead, the monks simply let me share their daily round of prayers, Mass, and meals.

Maybe that was enough, simply sharing, because when I returned, Lauren gave me a wifely look and asked if I was planning to keep going to Mass. Immediately the question seemed absurd, like the most unnecessary question a person could ask me. “I guess so,” I said casually, but as I thought about going to Mass, I felt a deep flurry of happiness, intense but reassuring precisely because it was so intense.

On the outside, I was sitting calmly at the kitchen table, but inside I was a wild man, happy and shouting, “Of course I’m going to Mass! Are you crazy?!”

A year later, after a painful and bewildering conversion, I was on my way to becoming a Catholic. I had begun participating in the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults, and in January, I decided to go see the monks again.

The year before as I drove down to the abbey, I was expecting the Hollywood version of a monastery, something like the label on a brandy bottle: charming and European with vineyards, massive stone buildings, and ivy-covered cloisters.

I wanted sturdy monks singing with deep, vibrant voices, like in the Gregorian chant CDs I played at home when I took hot baths and lit little sticks of incense and tried to feel spiritual.

Then I got there. Good Lord, I thought. The main building was a long, single-story structure covered with crumbling stucco; it looked like a cheap motel. The other buildings were made out of plastic Quonset huts joined together and spray painted white. Weeds were growing in the sidewalks.

Today, a year later, everything looked the same except a year older, a bit shabbier. I stopped at the front desk.

A gray haired monk in a black habit was listening to A Prairie Home Companion on a portable radio. I thought I recognized him, but I gave him my name. “Oh yes, we remember you,” he said. “We’ve been praying for you.”

What did that mean? I didn’t ask. I thanked him and walked over to the retreat center. My room was the one I’d had before, in St. Meinrad Hall. I had already made an appointment with Carmen, the spiritual director. We had talked a year ago, and it was obvious to both of us that I had had only the vaguest sense of God and the spiritual life. I wondered how she would react when I told her what had happened to me.

At our meeting, Carmen smiled, waiting for me to begin. I took a breath, then dropped my bombshell: I was joining the Church.

She nodded pleasantly.

I paused. That’s it? A nod? I’d just told her about one of the biggest events of my life. God had spoken! And spoken to me! I wanted congratulations, high fives.

Nothing. She waited for me to continue. So I filled her in with what I’d been trying to do spiritually over the past year, all the reading, the thinking, the self-assessment, etc.

She waited until I rolled to a stop. “It sounds like you’ve been very busy.”

“Actually, I feel like I’ve been wasting my time all these years, so maybe now I’m playing catch up,” I said.

“Don’t worry about wasting time. In fact, I’d say waste your time while you’re here.”


“Yes, my direction for your stay here is—no direction. Just listen. That is, feel, taste, sense what’s around you.”

I was furiously writing all this down in my notebook.

She waited until I’d stopped, then continued, “God has brought you here for a reason. So just wait. Something will happen. Don’t worry about whether you accomplish something or not. God talks to us in moods, dreams, memories, impulses, images. So open yourself to these things. Just listen.”

That night, like the first time I came to the abbey, I couldn’t sleep. The room seemed stuffy, and the mattress sagged in the middle. I kept turning and checking my glow-in-the-dark travel clock. Carmen said I was here for a reason, so what was it? Had I made a mistake coming here? Had I changed? Could I say that I truly loved God?

A TV evangelist in my head kept shouting at me, “Do you accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior? Huh? Do you?” Yes, I said. But did I really? No. I mean, yes! Well, yes…in a way.

Some days, Christ seemed like a metaphor. But now wasn’t the time to be literary, I told myself. And it wasn’t the time to be fastidious in my doubts. I’d tried doubt for almost half a century. Screw doubt. Believe me, doubt went nowhere. Now was the time to fully embrace the fact that God loved me.

Maybe I wasn’t ready to dance with God. Better to just think about God, a part of me said. Better to just feel something about God than to be with God. Better to stay in my study and read. Better to dance by myself.

—Tomorrow in Part 2: The author attempts to waste time.

Richard Cole is the author of two books of poetry: The Glass Children and Success Stories. He has recently completed a memoir: I Have Wonderful News: A Catholic Conversion, from which this blog is adapted.

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  • Richard,

    I really enjoyed reading this. Your story is a memorable one, and also an encouraging one. Thank you for sharing it so readily, and for giving us happy fuel for our hearts as the week comes to an end. 🙂

    Most Sincerely,


  • This reminds me: Where is your website, Richard? I searched for it and could not find one. I also could not find your book anywhere. Help me find you online so I can point people to your wares. 🙂

  • Richard Cole

    Thanks, Chad, for the kind words. I don’t yet have a site up for the creative writing, but that might change in the months ahead.

    Both The Glass Children and Success Stories are available at Amazon.com.

  • Loved this. “Screw doubt.” Good for you.

  • Cindy Belcher

    As I told you before Richard…great book and great writing. I have enjoyed the book and enjoyed your hearing about your journey. You have come a long wonderful way. Keep up the faith and keep writing.

  • Richard,
    I absolutely love your sharings about your monastic retreat experience! As one who has also shared in this experience, I find a lot of value and relevance in what you have written. Thank you for being so raw and open about it all. Our Lord is wonderful..
    Stay blessed,
    In Christ,