While You Are Not Watching

This was the title of an email I received few days ago. Basically, it mentioned that kids learn more from what they see you do than from what you instruct them to do. When I read this email, I remembered my 12 year old son’s words, “Mama, when you grow old I’ll take good care of you like you do with Geddo (grandfather)”. My eyes filled with tears and I was thankful to Allah.

SubhanAllah!!!! I have the honor to care for my 80 year old father after he suffered a stroke. After my son’s words, I have become even more careful with what I do and say to my dad. I was suffering from calling the kids and getting no answer,so now when my dad calls me I answer right away. And while I’m not watching, my kids noticed and wala! Problem solved!!!

Every time something like this happens to me I see the greatness of our Deen. Allah swt orders us to take care of our parents and I see the reward of that in this dunia before the akhira. So mamas, treat your parents the way you want your kids to treat you now and when you grow old.

And remember that your mother in law is a mother too! :)

Eman A. Sayed

Eman Sayed lives in Cairo, Egypt, with her four children and is interested in religious studies, parenting, and health.

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  • kelly

    Alhamdulillah. i completely agree. my mom lives very close to me and i have the same thoughts as you. it’s so important that our children are interactive and connected with the generations before us. it shows and teaches them things and concepts better than we ever could. i remember my grandmother living with us. she was my only grandparent that i knew, as all of them passed away before i was born. we all were so close to her. Subhan Allah.

  • Zainab

    Beautiful! MashaAllah what a good reminder.

  • http://igotitcovered.org/ igic

    Ma sha’ Allah, beautiful advice, and perfectly packaged!

  • Amane

    Much needed reminder. Thank you!

  • Sumayah

    Beautiful, Eman. JAK

  • Um Lubayah

    Oh, yes.

    For years I was dogged by the feeling that I wasn’t a good enough daughter to my mother, and therefore would never be good enough to be a mother myself. I strove for many years to improve my actions so I could be satisfied that I would be a good role model for my kids.

    It never happened.

    Finally, I decided I was never going to be happy with myself, so let the kids come!

    May Allah help us raise our kids well, not just with our words, but our actions as well.

    Jazaki Allahu khairan for the beautiful blog!

  • Naureen

    I live in cairo as well! Where in cairo do you reside? I’m in nasr city.

  • Eman

    I’m in alrehab city