John Alexander: Soul Friend I Never Knew

John F. Alexander

Every once in a while, especially when I’m speaking at a seminary, someone will ask what theologians have most shaped my understanding of the church. I’m a reader, and I’m grateful to the teachers that I’ve read and known. There’s a long list I can share, and it varies a bit depending on where I am. But I always say that some of the teachers who’ve shaped me the most are people you’ve never heard of. And one of them is a fellow I never even met. His name was John Alexander.

John was a prophet ahead of his time. From conversations about “emergence Christianity” to the proliferation of house churches to the “new monasticism” movement, Christians today are experimenting with new ways of doing church in America. However they say it, a new generation is dissatisfied with modern church forms and the fruit they produce. So much of what gets proclaimed as good news in America’s churches seems hollow and irrelevant. But what is the alternative? What would it look like to live as the people of God in America today?

This is the question that drove John all of his life. I came to know his work because the community where he lived and worked his last decade, Church of the Sojourners in San Francisco, was good enough to share with me the manuscript of his magnum opus, the book on church that he’d spent his whole life trying to write. They asked if I might edit it and see that it get published. I found there wasn’t too much work to do. It was a nearly complete manuscript. But there was a great deal to learn. Here was a soul friend, pouring out for me the hard earned wisdom of his life’s journey.

It was, indeed, a journey. John Alexander first became dissatisfied with the church tradition he had inherited when evangelical Christians lined up on the wrong side of the civil rights movement in the early 60’s. Together with his father, Fred Alexander, John started The Other Side magazine and was for years a leader among progressive evangelicals.

But in the mid-eighties John reassessed his life and ministry. As he said it, “I eventually found progressive Christians’ rights orientation (by then, my rights orientation) to lack depth. Their litany of who was violating their rights and the rights of others grew boring and had a stunningly different tenor from Jesus’ teaching. Besides, they were no better than schismatic fundamentalists at getting along with folks, and often their sexual stance was roughly as destructive as nuclear war.” John began to suspect that both the right and the left in American Christianity were missing something.

Then, at the Church of the Sojourners in San Francisco, he found a group of people experimenting with a new way of being church. He and his family relocated. John left The Other Side, left the Christian speaking circuit, and took up residence in a 24-7 live-in church.

John’s story reminds me of Henri Nouwen, the well-known academic and spiritual writer who left his teaching post at an Ivy League Divinity School to join a community of people with mental disabilities who were living together with others who not only wanted to care for them, but also to learn from them. By every account (including his own), Nouwen struggled with the transition. But it opened his eyes to the truth of the gospel. However hard it was for him to live this new truth, he wrote beautifully about it.

In the fall of 2006, I visited the Church of the Sojourners and talked to folks there about John Alexander. After ten years with them as member, mentor, and pastor, John had died very quickly from cancer in 2001. Within a very short window of time, the community lost another important elder. They had wondered if it were possible for them to go on. But, somehow, grace sustained them. They kept going.

Having worked through their grief and found a way forward, the folks at Church of the Sojourners said two things about John. First, he understood what they were doing and articulated it in a way that captivated all of them. They loved him for that. But they also noted that, like Nouwen, he struggled to live this vision. To the very end, he was trying to learn to love the people God had given him.

Because John trusted the vision that had captivated him, he stuck with it until then end. He wrote and re-wrote his best expressions of it, trying to say exactly what it was that had claimed his life. The result was the manuscript I’d been given–the book that has just been published as Being Church: Reflections on How to Live as the People of God. It is a carefully distilled manifesto of someone who spent his whole life thinking about how to become the church. And it is, as such, a great gift.

But this book is also the vision of a man who was being transformed by love. It’s the confession of someone who had a lot of good ideas, but still struggled to live them well. John worked on this book until his death, leaving it almost finished. But one of the things he wasn’t sure of was what to call it. He’d liked the title Stop Going to Churchand Become the Church.  It summed up nicely his radical idea. But the more he tried to live it, the more he thought he should probably just call it The Love Book.

“Love in action,” Dostoyevsky said, “is a harsh and dreadful thing compared to love in dreams.” But that’s exactly what the church is called to be—exactly what we’ve all been invited to become. This is an idea whose time has come. I pray we’ll find the grace to live it.

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  • Paco

    Awesome! My brother gave me Alexander’s Secular Squeeze back when I was in College and it had a huge impact on me. He had a unique voice and was also one my teachers who i never met. I had read somewhere that he had died with, “Stop Going to Church… and Become the Church” unpublished and loved the title, and hoped that one day I could see it. I didn’t even know it was being worked on and now its out! Awesome. Thanks Church of the Sojourners, Jonathan, and Wipf & Stock!

    • Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove

      Thanks for sharing, Paco. John’s voice was, indeed, unique. I had the chance to listen to a some recordings of talks he gave about the book while he was working on it. But even if you never heard it with your ear, you can hear him when you read. Blessings, jwh

      • Paco

        Is there anywhere where i could hear some of those (or other) recordings?

        • Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove

          Church of the Sojourners has them. I don’t know if any of them are on their website, but you could be in touch with them there to inquire.

  • Ron Byler

    This is truly awesome. John and Judy were a great influence on my life. Not sure I would have found my way to keep relating to the church without them. 30 years later, and work with Mennonite Church USA, American Friends Service Committee and now Mennonite Central Committee, I am indebted to him and to a small group of rag tag Christians in the Germantown section of Philadelphia for pointing me toward the Christ of the Gospels. Thanks for your writing, too! I look forward to reading the book and remembering a serious, funny, quirky, annoying, sentimental, insistent, under the skin man who made me think about what I believed and why. Grace and Peace to you – Ron Byler

    • Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove

      Thanks for sharing this, Ron. In addition to learning a great deal from John, the great joy of working on this book was that I got to hear dozens of testimonies like yours. He was, indeed, a gift to God’s Movement who, in many ways, sowed seeds that are only now beginning to sprout.

  • Tim Otto

    Jonathan, Thank you for this beautiful article. For anyone interested in John’s book, it can be purchased at a 30% discount at by entering the code CHURCH into the “enter coupon code” space in one’s shopping cart.

    • Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove

      Thank you, Tim, for recognizing that my soul needed some of what John’s had found.

  • Dawn Noelle

    I happened to visit Church of the Sojourners when you were here in 2006. I attended the “Sojo 101″ talk with my mother, Christi, who was recovering from thyroid cancer. I cried that afternoon in the backyard circle, unable to articulate how deeply I felt and knew that this place was what I had been seeking for quite some time. Now I sit here, across from Judy’s room, next to my mother’s bed in our new guest room, reading your thoughts on the life of John Alexander – who died during holy week – similarly to my mother’s passing during holy week of this year. The circle of connections is somewhat overwhelming, but I can attest to the continuity of this people on their journey of becoming the church.

    -Dawn Noelle

    • Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove

      Thanks for sharing, Dawn. It is a great mystery how God knits us together in the fabric of the beloved community. I’m so glad that you’re finding your place with the good people there.

  • David Chandler

    Thanks so much for collecting this legacy of John’s. He was my first philosophy professor. Though he would probably groan, he was a major reason I have pursued that profession. He and The Other Side were a life-saver, the main influence that kept me from giving up on Christianity both at Wheaton College and Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary.