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A woman who struggles with SSA writes a brave and honest account of her fidelity to love of Christ and her family. Let her deeds bring her praise in the city gates. Such people are heroes and should be acclaimed and honored as such by us fellow Catholics.

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  • Christine

    In a similar vein, there is a blog I’ve been following written by a faithful Catholic man with SSA. He writes under the pseudonym Steve Gershom and has a lot of insight:


  • I couldn’t believe how ugly one or two of the comments were, especially the first one. Some people never miss an opportunity to scold.

    • Confederate Papist

      Ivory Towers, SPD.

      I think it was courageous for her to write it.

  • This is a friend of mine. I am awfully proud of her taking steps to share her story.

    I was also a bit surprised at the reaction of the first commenters who thought it was ok to complain about someone’s testimony. My thought is that if it’s someone else’s journey, we don’t have a right to tell them their experience was wrong.

    Please lift her in prayer because it’s never easy to share such a deeply personal account, even anonymously.

  • I’m so sad for her. There has been no greater happiness for me than to marry my wife. Although I am an atheist, having been raised Catholic, my wife is Christian, and it is very important to her. I wish that other people had our happiness without having to deny themselves something so innate.

    • JonathanR.

      Yeah, so happy you had to borrow all the trappings of hated “heteronormativity”. What’s next? Baby shopping?

    • S. Murphy

      I think maybe you don’t need to be sad for her. It sounds as if she loves her husband; and she has chosen this path for herself. Also, she doesn’t say she’s exclusively attracted to women. It’s possible she’s bi, and in effect, having married someone, she, like a lot of other people, finds herself now and then attracted to 3rd parties, and has to deal with it.

    • Shiela

      I think the author is seeking true happiness rather than fleeting worldly pleasures and empty promises of happiness. So, please do not feel sad for her. She is plotting her path to eternal joy. What a gift to her husband to have a love that transcends the flesh and a marriage that reflects the creator’s love for us. She has discovered that true happiness requires a dying to self. I have never had to walk her path but I know as a wife and mother that I must sacrifice my creature desires to seek my transcendent bliss. I am sure my husband has had to deny his creature desires to be with other women in order to have a marriage that becomes a gift of strength and solace to our children.

  • My webpage link went funny…so I’ll just comment again, and add that I would never disrespect myself or a spouse and marry a man simply because that is the way. He deserves more, and so do you.

    • Edward

      Why is it you feel the need to proselytize here? I don’t get it, and I am being honest here. I understand, being gay is the greatest thing in the entire world ever, it is life giving and wondeful, ect, ect, but why do gays and their supporters always feel the need to tell that to everyone else, especially those who disagree with that stance.

      • S. Murphy

        No, she’s joining the discussion, presenting a point of view she figures we haven’t heard. How bout engaging in a non-hostile manner? We live in society with people who have these views. Frankly, taking away the faith that allows me to say, ‘yeah, the Church has the authority to tell me what the Sacrament of Matrimony is, and therefore also what right and wrong uses of my sexuality are,’ I don’t know that I’d have an answer to Emily.

        • “taking away the Faith…I don’t know that I’d have an answer to Emily.”

          Well, there’s also natural law…but yeah, in the absence of a belief in God, there’s really no reason to believe in objective right or wrong at all.

          • S. Murphy

            There’s natural law, but generally, present-day materialists don’t think it’s an intellectually respectable argument. I’m not sure I grok how to make it one for them, although John C. Wright, in his atheist days, apparently was an exception.

  • **I would never disrespect myself or a spouse and marry a man simply because that is the way. He deserves more, and so do you.**

    If this is all you walked away with after reading her story, you truly missed the point of her post. As her friend, I can tell you your assessment is a reflection of your journey, not hers.

    • Shiela

      I believe the author was seeking to respect herself by embracing the gift of her sexuality as God intended rather than as her instinctual self desired. Her husband is fortunate to have a woman who defines love in ways that go beyond the flesh. And, I am sure that they have discovered that sexual union is lifted when the lovers look to give to their spouse rather than take.

  • Maiki

    I’m glad more people are willing to open up about these subjects — it is corageous. Why doesn’t she call herself bisexual instead of lesbian, though? The challenges faced by bisexual people are different than those of “solely/predominantly” gay or lesbian people, and they have a hard time finding sympathetic voices on any side of the aisle — it is frustrating when it is simply swept aside as a non-issue. “Recovering lesbian” gives a very different impression of what her story is about — and also gives false hope/false impressions to those who aren’t bisexual.

    • JonathanR.

      “Why doesn’t she call herself bisexual instead of lesbian, though?”

      I think she addressed that in the combox over there. She’s not bisexual. Unless every lesbian whose turned back gets booted to the “bisexual” column.

  • Edward

    I will make sure to pray a prayer for that women, it must be hard, especially given the crap she is going to take from the ‘gay is wondeful or else’ crowd for giving up her lesbianism.

    And to maiki, read the comment section, the author responded to that type of question.

  • Tom

    It is interesting to me that author was abandoned and abused as a youth. And her former girlfriend was sexual abused. Is there a relationship? I guess it’s no surprise that your actions towards a child can affect their lives either positively or negatively. Pray to the Holy Family for guidance and strength to be better parents an guardians.