It’s a no-brainer that we should have the right to marry, but I also think equally that it’s a no-brainer that the institution of marriage should not exist.
I don’t think I can agree strongly enough that a person who says this is a no-brainer. And read the rest. Sometimes the mask slips. This is about gaining the coercive power of the state to punish those who won’t pretend that homosex is not disordered. It will create four basic classes: those who successfully delude themselves that it is fine, those who unconvincingly lie to themselves that it is fine, those who lie to others that it is fine, and those who won’t lie and are punished for it.
The central lie is that this is all about a “private choice”. No. When you drag the state into it and make it punish those who will not subscribe to your view you are acting as publically as you possibly can. If you want to have a fake “wedding” with all your friends cheering you and affirming you in your okayness you can do that right now. What legalization means is that you will be able to call in the might of the state to punish those who know the wedding is a fake.