How Not to Win Hearts and Minds

So here’s the thing: I basically agree with the Church (and most humans in human history) that the optimal environment in which a child should be raised is in family with a father and a mother bound together in the covenant of marriage.

The way not to persuade me to change my mind is write me (after having written before asking for help with something and gotten it when I am, you know, pretty busy) and tell me, out of the blue, that I am a privileged, gentrified, white asshole if I don’t drop everything and explain to your satisfaction why I think the obvious and optimal family arrangement shouldn’t immediately change to suit you.  And, after you have delivered this sudden kick to the groin out of the blue, don’t follow it up with a speech about how I need to learn how to take it if I’m gonna be a real Christian, etc.

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  • Thomas Boynton Tucker

    Google Ten Tips for Dealing with Crazy People. Basically, the recommendation is: don’t. Cause you can’t win, you can only lose.

    • chezami

      Hence my blocking the guy. This is more intended as a warning to others.

  • Stu

    So you aren’t “gentrified?”


    • chezami

      I honestly have no idea what that is supposed to mean.

      • Tom

        It originally referred to richer people moving into poor neighborhoods and pricing out the original residents. You’re clearly complicit in this by advocating a traditional family structure, not to mention committing the capital sins of cultural appropriation and countless microaggressions.

        • Stu

          Well, there you have it. I alway knew Mark was a “gentificationist.”

          • chezami

            I’m still totally lost.

            • Stu

              Just embrace it.

              “Gentrificationist and Enjoying It!”

  • LSpinelli

    “These are (some of) the things I learned (in Kindergarten):

    2. Play fair.
    3. Don’t hit people.
    7. Say you’re SORRY when you HURT somebody.

    Robert Fulghum, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten”

    Guy needs a time out in the corner.

  • HBoitel

    The “optimal environment” for a child is a loving, caring and teaching environment. Regardless of how many parents or guardians are involved or what their respective genders or religious beliefs may be, if the child is not loved, cared for and taught to effectively use his or her intellect and skills, then the child is in a grossly deficient environment. THAT should be the starting point of any discussion of this subject.

    • Jared Clark

      Yes, obviously the child’s father and mother should love, care for, and teach him or her. Wasn’t aware that even needed to be stated