How do I help my wife overcome sexual trauma and dysfunction?

I am a 50+ year old life-long member who is eternally committed to a talented and caring LDS woman and our 30+ year temple marriage. Our children are grown and all but one has left the nest. We have struggled with intimacy and sexual dysfunction our entire marriage. Not withstanding that we were chaste during [Read More...]

Recommended Reading: Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem 3rd Edition by Matthew McKay, PhD & Patrick Fanning The Self-Esteem Guided Journal: A 10-week Program by Matthew McKay, PhD & Catharine Sutker The Self-Esteem Companion by Matthew McKay, PhD, Patrick Fanning, Carole Honeychurch and Catharine Sutker [Read more...]

Recommended Reading: Sexual Issues in Marriage

And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment by Laura M Brotherson Sex for Dummies by Dr. Ruth K Westheimer Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women by Julia R. Heiman, PhD & Joseph LoPiccolo, PhD The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman’s Guide to Why She Can’t and How She Can [Read More...]

This is what my wife and I found helpful:

I am the poster of the original newlywed comment. Here are some sources/suggestions that worked for us. Every couple is different, so these would obviously need to be adapted to each couples own needs. For general love/relationship strength, my wife and I LOVE the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. His approach includes [Read More...]

Can you provide informational postings helping LDS newlyweds?

I think that this blog is an excellent idea, especially the focus on sexuality in an LDS marriage. My wife and I were married in 2007 and have unfortunately had to put a lot of time into overcoming her insecurities about her body and intimacy in general. I was lucky enough, though it didn’t seem [Read More...]

The Doctor is In: Link between Depression and Coronary Artery Disease

Depression is the most common psychiatric diagnosis and is frequently seen among patients with chronic medical illnesses. A recent study published in Psychiatric Times stated depression is common among patients with coronary artery disease (#1 cause of death in the USA) and can increase cardiovascular morbidity and mortality. Concerning this correlation, it is important to [Read More...]

What do I do when I don’t feel safe talking to my husband about sex?

I just discovered your blog and am intrigued. You mentioned in an earlier post about communicating with our spouse our view of sex–not just the fantasies. I don’t feel like I can do that with my husband. He is not a safe place to go for me. We have a different opinion about how and [Read More...]

What’s there to talk about during sex?

My husband and I don’t really talk during sex. What’s there to talk about? I’m certainly not going to talk about something other than sex because then I get distracted and the mood totally dies. Or we can talk about sex, but talking about sex while you’re actually doing it seems stupid it me. And [Read More...]

Recommended Reading: Self-Inflicted Violence

The Scarred Soul: Understanding & Ending Self-Inflicted Violence by Tracy Alderman, PhD [Read more...]

Continuation of Answer Re Sexual Fantasies

I don’t believe I touched enough on the issue of sexual fantasies in my previous answer to question/comments posted. I have found that married couples in the LDS community, or even other religiously conservative communities, many times have challenges within the realm of their sexuality. Most of us spent the first part of our lives [Read More...]