Could you tell me what a clitoris is?

Its me again! Wife who gets frustrated by other wives denying sex from their husbands. I just wanted to share with you that I was recently in a group of women and the topic of sex came up. These women were making negative comments and obviously thought that sex was a thing of the world [Read More…]

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…why we and our children are here on earth.

That’s a great post. Your reference to the “falling process” is an important reminder to parents of why we and our children are here on earth. Thank you!  I so appreciate your positive feedback.   [Read more…]

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Choices that will maximize our intimacy…

My wife and I had always considered masturbation without the other spouse present something that was not approved of by the Church and therefore wrong. We had not really discussed it, but always thought that it was wrong. It was not until we heard others’ views and discovered how prevalent the practice of masturbation in [Read More…]

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Are there situations where celibacy might be appropriate within marriage?

While I realize that neither the Church nor anything in the gospel advocates celibacy or prohibits sexual relations between husband and wife, are there situations where celibacy might be appropriate? The Church does teach that we should control our thoughts and that our spirit should be stronger than bodily appetites. The ideal, I think, is [Read More…]

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My wife and I have never had much physical chemistry…

My wife and I have never had much physical “chemistry”. We married more because we liked being with each other and because we admired each other. Now she believes I don’t find her attractive and is no longer interested in intimacy (and says she never has been). Nothing I do or say changes her mind. [Read More…]

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I am suffering from situational arousal/anorgasmia disorder…

I am suffering from several sexual disorders resulting from early past experiences (purely psychological, not physical)–primarily situational arousal/anorgasmia disorder. I’ve been doing a lot of research and think I understand all the why’s of what I am experiencing, but the suggested treatments I find often go against my religious values and actually encourage the exact [Read More…]

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I find it frustrating that many husbands are expected to accept a wives response that she is no longer interested in sex.

I posted earlier about my frustration with other women denying their husbands sex. I have since worked through more of my issue. Thanks for posting this. I appreciate what is written. I agree with this writer that the most frustrating part is a spouse that is apathetic to the other spouse about sexual needs. (Fortunately, [Read More…]

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How do I separate love and sex to be able to feel loved in other, non-sexual ways?

It probably isn’t uncommon to associate love and sex- after all, we believe in abstaining from sexual activities until marriage, and we believe that sex is intended as an expression of love and means to strengthen a couples’ bond.  But is it dangerous to equate love and sex?  I think that I (and possibly others) do [Read More…]

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Sexual apathy or indifference seems difficult to address…

While I don’t dispute that many wives (and/or husbands) have experienced serious issues that make intimacy within marriage a challenge, from my admittedly limited observations, reading, etc., I believe that perhaps a larger issue is apathy and disinterest toward this important part of marriage. In a way, although I don’t want to minimize the trauma [Read More…]

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How can I get my husband to see that his priorities are not in line?

I just came across this site- thank you! It seems to be just what I’ve needed as I live in an area without access to LDS Social Services and I recognize how an understanding of gospel doctrine is essential to addressing marital issues of LDS couples. My issue is this- I have been married for [Read More…]

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