It’s a Black Issue. It’s not a Black Issue

The murder of Sam DuBose is horrifying and I am very happy that the now-fired officer is being indicted. Another Black family has to mourn the untimely death of their family member. We have to continue the ‪#‎blacklivesmatter‬ movement and work to bring fairness to the criminal justice system. This includes but is not limited to making sure police officers are recruited and trained in a proper manner, bodycams are made mandatory, racial profiling is eliminated, police offenders are brought to jus … [Read more...]

A Primer on All Those Funny-Sounding Arabic Words

A primer for everyone who wants to know: What are all those doggone foreign-sounding words Nancy keeps using? Even non-Arab Muslims tend to sprinkle their conversations with Arabic words. It's easier to say "iftaar" rather than "that meal we break our fast with when the sun goes down". After a while, we do it unconsciously and may accidentally use the Arabic words around our non-Muslim family, friends, or co-workers. "Hey, Sally, InshaAllah (God willing) I'm going to the beach this weekend, … [Read more...]

Restarting in Safe Mode

That's me, right there. You know how sometimes your computer goes on the fritz (okay, maybe not you Mac people), and then when it reboots it will tell you, “Computer did not shut down normally”. It will give you the option of restarting in normal mode or in “safe” mode. Safe mode is where you run essential services until you can figure out what is wrong. Well, I think I've been running in safe mode for most of the last three decades. And I'm 48. Yeah. My parents divorced when I was around fourte … [Read more...]

Was I being too kumba-ya about the situation in Phoenix?

As Salaamu Alaikum and howdy all. Well, it's Monday, and we can be happy that the protest in Phoenix was mostly peaceful and there was no violence and there were no arrests. There was even a very nice story about one of the protesters who accepted an invitation to go into the mosque. Prior to the protest, I wrote saying that if I were there, I would provide cold water for the protesters and try to engage with them on a human level. I got a lot of support for my point of view, thank you all, and … [Read more...]

To the Bikers Who Plan to Protest in Arizona

May God's peace and blessings be upon all people of good faith who are seekers of the truth. My dear brothers and sisters in humanity, fellow children of Adam, peace be upon him, I congratulate you for living in the United States of America, a country which allows me as a Muslim woman to express my beliefs freely and without harm, and allows you to protest against things that you disagree with. The Second Amendment protects us both as it allows us to defend ourselves from those who would wish … [Read more...]

I’m getting a little more mentally ready for Ramadan

Ramadan! Less than a month away. It gets light SO early and dark SO late but I will say alhamdulillah because it takes place during summer vacation where I live so I can wake up, pray, and go back to bed before I have to wake up for good to go to work. And I work for myself so I can call in late to myself if I need to. I bought myself a brand new pack of legal pads in a lovely soothing pale blue to use for Qur'an memorization. I am the kind of person who has to symbolically start afresh with a … [Read more...]

How did it get to be almost Ramadan already? I ain’t ready!

  There's a rumor going around that Ramadan is approaching. Less than a month and we will embark on our marathon month of fasting. This is the time of year that I contemplate moving to South Africa for thirty days. The summer will be just about to get into full swing in the northern hemisphere by the time we start fasting around June seventeenth, while my friends on the south end of the planet are about to enter winter, with short days and long nights. Around where I live, sunrise will be … [Read more...]

I Almost Forgot It’s Prom Season…. A Little Tough Love and Realness in One Sentence

One sentence:  It is not permissible for Muslim young men and women to attend prom.   Okay, that's it, bye, see you tomorrow! What?  Oh, you want more?  What's my daleel (proof)?  Well, if you want the long version.... I totally forgot it's prom season.  My son is only 15 and is at this point in his life is blissfully oblivious to all that stuff (thanks online games!).  One of my FB friends shared a picture of a young lady in a very fancy long dress that did cover her in the same manne … [Read more...]

Who Am I? Read this and (sorta) find out

As Salaamu Alaikum, wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuhu Peace be upon you, and the mercy of Allah and His blessingsSo, who is Muslimah in Progress? I've been writing for years now, sharing my experiences and ideas with family, friends, and a whole lot of strangers. Now, at the ripe young age of 47, I hope I have accumulated some wisdom to help me put all of my experiences in perspective. It is my prayerful wish that everyone who reads what I write benefits in some way, either through my humor … [Read more...]

I Don’t Invite You to Islam

I don't invite you to Islam. I don't invite you to Islam because most of the “Muslim” countries are led by dictators and despots, or by no one at all. I don't invite you to Islam because the rights Allah granted to Muslim women 1400 years ago are routinely trampled upon today. From domestic abuse to honor killings to female genital mutilation, the status of women is so far from the ideal that you can't even see it from here. I don't invite you to Islam because the level of knowledge among the c … [Read more...]