The True Beauty of a Woman? My Idea is Different from Hers

Salaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahTwo things hit my Facebook feed today that I felt compelled to comment on.  One was a bit of prose by a Muslim sister of mine.  I'll post it here and then comment on it:THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN :The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SILENCE rather than her speech The beauty of a woman lies IN HER VEIL rather than her face The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SUBMISSION rather that her leadership The beauty of a woman lies IN HER SMILE rather than her l … [Read more...]

The Second Half of the First Day of Eid

Salaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahWell, I am happy to report that the second half of our first day of Eid went very well, so we managed to string together a really good day, alhamdulillah. We relaxed at home for a while and then piled everyone in the car to head to the park. First hiccup in the day; hubby had misread his email and we weren't supposed to have a day at the "park" but rather a day at a place called Funland in a shopping center named "Central Park". Well, there was a park in there … [Read more...]

In the Midst of the Eid

Salaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahWell, it's about 2 pm on the first day of Eid.  Children have been dressed, hustled into their carseats, unloaded, shepherded to the Eid hall, given candy, shushed, given more candy, chased around the hall, had pictures taken, been told "mashaAllah" a hundred times, loaded back into the van, driven home, fed a huge pancake and french toast breakfast, changed into play clothes, and given their Eid loot.  Things are quiet at the moment.  The kids are playing qu … [Read more...]

Another Eid, Another Scramble


Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah Eid al Adha is rapidly approaching.  Where did the time go?  I thought the first Eid was just over.  The bounce house, the visitors, the food, the hyperactive children running through the yard?  And now, a mere three days from now, I have to muster the strength to wake up early and dress five children and shepherd them to an Eid prayer I won't even hear before I've even had my first cup of coffee.The Eids always catch me unaware.  Every year I promise myself tha … [Read more...]

What Will Remind us of our Fate?


Salaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahAfter news of yet another devastating earthquake, this time in the eastern part of Turkey, we are left wondering how many more of these disasters are going to follow in quick succession.  Just here in the United States, we have endured, in various parts of our country, floods, wildfires, drought, hurricanes, and tornadoes.  In my own area, we experienced a rare moderate earthquake.  Anyone living in a quake-prone area might poo-poo our shock and amazement at the r … [Read more...]

The death of (another) tyrant


Salaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahYesterday the tyrant Qadhafi was killed, and as the news spread, response to his death lit up the blogosphere and social networks. On my own Facebook page, my wall was flooded with comments ranging from "Whoopie!" to "He's a martyr!".  I kept my own response short and simple, commenting that instead of obsessing about his death, we should concentrate on the state of our own souls, because on the Day of Judgment each of us will be worried about ourselves to the … [Read more...]

Why Would I Leave Islam?

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahIt's my anniversary, well, sort of.  Eighteen years ago on Labor Day weekend, a Sunday, I said my Shahadah.  I was standing in the front lobby of the Islamic Society of Greater Kansas City.  I had just attended a class for the sisters, and everyone had left.  The only ones still in the building were the Imaam, me, and some guy vacuuming.  I was nervous.  I had talked about saying my Shahadah with the ladies in the … [Read more...]

Alhamdulillah, Have to Count Our Blessings

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahOriginally this post was going to be a vehement screed against improper behavior in the masjid.  Well, not just "the masjid" in general, but in the masjid my family goes to.  My husband has been spending the odd nights of the last ten days of Ramadan in itikaaf, and last night was the 27th.  He came home directly after fajr, frustrated and definitely not in the spiritual, contemplative mood of someone who had spent the night in … [Read more...]

Lailat al Qadr, You Say? I’m Not Feelin’ It….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahOkay, so tonight is the 27th of Ramadan.  We are instructed to look for Lailat al Qadr, the Night of Power, in the odd nights of the last ten days, with particular emphasis on the 27th.  My husband left for the masjid before iftaar, and I am here home with the kids.  Sigh.  The kids.  The one who came home crying from school because his brother got a bottle of soap bubbles to play with from the prize box in his class … [Read more...]

Ramadan So Far

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahHow is my  Ramadan going so far?  Am I spending my days in constant remembrance of Allah?  Am I devoting more time to study and acts of 'ibaadah?  Am I feeling a huge spiritual uplift this time of year?  Well, for me it's both simple and complicated.  I do remember Allah all during the day, but that is a really everyday thing for me.  I think it's part of my anxiety / guilt complex, but I am always AWARE of … [Read more...]