the fear of face to face meetings

About David Hayward

David Hayward runs the blog nakedpastor as a graffiti artist on the walls of religion where he critiques religion… specifically Christianity and the church. He also runs the online community The Lasting Supper where people can help themselves discover, explore and live in spiritual freedom.

  • Tana

    The pastor wants to see her in his office immediately? LOL! The only person in the entire world from whom that phrasing is appropriate is my boss and even then I think it’s overly dramatic and a attempt to reinforce one’s alpha-ness.

    Of course, there was a time when I would have been scared into heading straight over to the church to see what Pastor wanted/needed and yes, I’d be afraid that I was going to be reprimanded for something. Never again. (Why did I ever let another person make me question my inherent goodness? What could I possibly have done wrong that deserved a rebuke? Why in the world was I living in fear of his opinion of me?)

    If I were to get that kind of phone call now, I’d consult my calendar and offer to meet him or her at a coffee house when I was available.

    Incidentally, I don’t call anyone back when their message to me is, “This is so and so – I need you to call me back.” Uh, okay, if you need me to call you back, you’d have left some information for me to consider in the msg. Maybe it’s just me. :)

  • Tana

    Gosh – had a lot to say in response to this cartoon! LOL, sorry for being so verbose!

  • sam scoville

    She must be in agony. Working out her salvation in fear and trembling? Godfearing. Monumental baggage–raised up on the wrong side of the facts? An environment of religious abuse, molestation and manipulation? What kind of a church would encourage the need for anesthesia? What kind of a pastor would have such dominion? She’s still got a land line phone. Maybe this is from long ago. Olden daze. Surely goodness and mercy…. She doesn’t look happy or joyful. Bad church! Bad pastor! Tear the veil from top down.

  • Cameron

    I’ve been there, but from the other side of the pulpit. My receptionist would put a call through telling me that Sarah was here to see me, and she needs to see me NOW.

    And people wonder why I do so much work out of the office, in the community.

  • Becca

    Can’t tell you how much this rings true for me. That feeling of powerlessness when you’re not sure what you’ve got wrong this time.
    Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone in this experience.

  • Sarah

    God that’s bloody disgusting. Not that he’s going to rape her just that he’s going to bring his I Am God worship me male ego down on her.

    Spiritual rohipnol.