hate comes from fear and love starts right here

hate yourself cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward
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Some people like to claim that I hate some people because I attack them with my cartoons and posts. I strongly disagree. I can sincerely say I do not hate that person. But I certainly do critique what they say and do.

Yesterday I wrote to a friend these words:

“I assume we’re all equal. So I’m against abuse, control, manipulation, assumptions of power, the presumption of privilege, etc., in whatever mode they appear or are expressed, whether it’s with women or church members or LGBT folk or whomever. This is what my cartoons and posts are all about!”

I have written on what I call the z-theory in an attempt to explain why we are all equal, connected and united, even though it is not seen, felt or manifested.

It is becoming more and more evident to me that the hatred expressed in our world is rooted in fear. It is also becoming more and more evident to me that love begins in my own heart.

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  • Al Cruise

    Totally agree with you David. Being for “Justice” will always look like hate to those who want power and prestige at the expense of others.

  • klhayes

    I agree, more and more people are realizing the opposite of love is not hate, it is fear. And from fear stem all the other negative emotions.

  • The trouble is that we love ourselves first and foremost, so much of the time.

    We are not selfless, as our Lord was.

    So, we’ve got a problem. We have NO righteousness of our own.

    We need a Savior.

  • Gary

    Wow steve…You just perfectly illustrated the words the Jesus of David’s cartoon was saying.

    You do realize this was satire right? I mean…you don’t REALLY think the cartoon Jesus was speaking the truth do you?

  • Gary,

    I was merely attempting to get people (not you) to understand that they are in bondage to self and will not love their neighbor as they love themselves.

  • Gary


    I was merely attempting to get people (not you) to understand that they are NOT necessarily in bondage to self and that they CAN love their neighbor as they love themselves. (Just as Jesus commanded)

  • The version I always heard in church was to hate yourself and convince everyone else to also hate themselves. Then to love Jesus because He is the only one who will love your sorry ass. Then feel all self-righteous that you are among the saved. And then to hate the gays but say that you love them.

    There are also various other out-groups tbat could be substituted for gays.

  • Jim MacQ

    I read a psychological study about 20 years ago that posited that all fear boils down to three: fear of pain, fear of isolation, and fear of helplessness. Every fear is rooted in one or more of these. If you think about it, the opposite of each of these fears is a component of love. Pain/comfort, isolation/intimacy, helplessness/security. The opposite of love is fear, not hate.

    The Bible says “perfect love casts out fear.” Not hate, fear. “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, of love and a strong mind.” Again, fear, not hate.

    Every time an angel appears to anyone, the first thing they say is “fear not!”

    When God confronted Adam about his sin, what was Adam’s response? “I was afraid, and I hid.”

    Fear is the root of sin. I told my kids over and over, any decision based in fear is probably the wrong choice. Fear is the enemy.

    And what is the church doing about it? The loud ones on TV are promoting and encouraging fear. Scary messages, frantic emails, oppressive laws and abusive policies, all rooted in fear. Fear of the world, (“I have overcome the world,” He said), fear of the government, fear of the masses, fear of the culture. We have a fear-based theology. Jesus told Peter that he would build his church and “the gates of hell will not prevail against it.” In other words, the church will go out boldly and knock down the gates of hell. Instead we hunker in our bunkers and tremble at the scary stories of Satan’s movement in the world. Fear not!!

  • Brigitte

    I think Gary and Steve have finally agreed on something: Steve is in bondage to self and does not love his neighbor has himself and needs a savior, and Gary is NOT in bondage to self and loves his neighbor as himself and needs no savior. Did I hear it right? In the story of the publican and the pharisee who is justified?

  • Gary

    Your spin on my comment is, as usual, creative.

  • Gary,

    Sometimes we can’ see it, because of our fallen nature, but God’s law points it out and exposes our true lack of selflessness.

  • Gary

    I understand this is what you believe. I believe that what you refer to as “God’s law” is actually man’s attempt to portray God in his image.

  • OK, Gary.

    We are at odds…again.

    Oh well. We can’t agree all the time 😀

  • question everything

    Could I please post this on my facebook page? I have several followers who need to hear this. I would of course give you the credit. I just love the way you’ve said this.

  • Of course. Just as you say!! Thanks for asking.

  • David

    I agree! This is such a concise and eloquent explanation of the true opposites, love and fear, that illuminates and illustrates its message with such clarity as I am unaccustomed to reading anywhere. So well written, no wasted words, just to the point but so beautifully penned. I am so glad I stumbled upon this post!

  • Jim MacQ

    Please do. And thank you for the compliment.