Fifty Shades Of Not Okay

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I used to think men were the primary consumers of porn, though I've known a few women over the years who admitted to their own porn habit. The Fifty Shades "Mommy porn" phenomenon has changed the conversation in our culture. Women, you may think that the dreck you're reading on your Kindle during naptime - or the movie you're planning to see this weekend to celebrate St. Valentine's Day - is between you and (maybe) your husband or boyfriend, but it's not. It spills into your kids' lives in ways … [Read more...]

When The Heart Waits: Chapter 2

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We live in an age of acceleration, in an era so seduced by the instantaneous that we're in grave danger of losing our ability to wait. - Sue Monk Kidd Sue Monk Kidd wrote these words in 1990, before smart phones and always-on accelerated our lives in ways we couldn't have imagined way back in the good old days of AOL dial-up. Yet our culture was already moving at the speed of frantic twenty-five years ago. The expectation of instant has come at a high cost. She asks, "Where is our willingness … [Read more...]

ATI Regrets And The Need For Holy Anger

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When you're a parent terrified by the fact that your newborn didn't come complete with an owner's manual, you may be easy prey for a door-to-door salesman who magically appears at your house one day with one just for you. When you sign on the dotted line, desperate for a quick fix, it may take years to discover you've sold your family into spiritual slavery. That book of answers you bought are really some bloviator's opinions packaged as facts. Only your holy anger can set you free.When your … [Read more...]

Passing On A Legacy Of Epic Marriage

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Mike and Diane Siri offer a great example of what a second act in life and ministry might look like. They'd each built successful careers in the business world during the first half of their lives.“After twenty-five years in the corporate world, I realized I wasn’t pursuing my passion, which is the development and nurturing of God-honoring relationships,” Mike told me. “As I began pursuing a path of helping others restore, nurture and celebrate relationships, a vision began to form of a famil … [Read more...]

I Don’t Live In A Library

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You might think my office was a very poorly organized library if you were to stop by my house right now. You'd be right about the sad state of my organizational skills. The festive piles of books surrounding me includes my textbooks for this quarter's class at Northern Seminary and the crazy rotating cast of characters I've been borrowing by the pound (for this project) from actual libraries that keep their books on shelves organized by Dewey Decimal or Library of Congress numbering systems. I al … [Read more...]

Parented By Grandparents

Afew weeks ago, I was at a McDonalds PlayPlace with my two grandsons, ages 6 and 11. There were a half-dozen other older caregivers in the room watching the kids burn off some of that Happy Meal energy. When a little girl took a tumble down a slide and cried, “Grandma!” we all rose to our feet to see if it was our grandchild who needed comforting. Boomers hear a lot about the stresses of the "sandwich generation," caught between caring for aging parents while still raising our own families. Plu … [Read more...]

When Renee Walks Away: On “De-conversion” Stories

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The latest "I once was 'found', then I headed for the exit door" tale making the rounds among the Christian internet world is that of George Perdikis, one of the founder of Christian pop band, the Newsboys. Whether it's stories like that of Bob Dylan, Frank Schaeffer, Katy Perry, or countless others over the last 2,000 years who have elected to walk away from orthodox Christianity, we who stay may have one or both of these responses: (1) We may chalk it up either apostasy or a belief that the le … [Read more...]


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