#PlanetCCM: Five Iron Frenzy, the Soundtrack to My Deconversion (and Reconversion)

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Content Note: Discussion of suicide and depressionMy husband (fiancé at the time) went to a Five Iron Frenzy show last year, shortly after the band reunited and started touring again. When we walked out of the concert venue, we both started to say something at the same time, then stopped, and laughed."You first," I said."No you.""Alright. I was just thinking that Five Iron Frenzy kind of makes me believe in God again. Maybe being a Christian doesn't have to be horrible. What were … [Read more...]

“Turn and Face the Strange”

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I got married this past August and moved from Michigan to Ohio. When I did this, I attempted to bring along my cat, Smeagol, who had been living at my parents house his entire life. He didn't like it.He was confused by his surroundings. He was afraid of our other cat, Pickle. He was sad that he no longer could go outside without a leash. He didn't like the neighbor kids.And so he kind of gave up on life. He stopped eating and drinking. He went and sat in his litter box, … [Read more...]

Stealing Sexy Calendars isn’t Jesus, and it isn’t Radical.

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On December 4th, the editors at Jesus Radicals chose to publish a post that left me baffled for awhile. I had to read it multiple times to make sure it wasn't a joke, and double check the website to make sure I hadn't accidentally ended up on a satire site.But nope. This post was real life. It shared an anonymous woman's story of walking past a calendar kiosk, seeing those sexy calendars that feature a different woman in a bikini each month, and getting angry at the objectification of … [Read more...]

#PlanetCCM: Relient K And Using CCM To Sell Sexism

This the cover of the book "The Complex Infrastructure Known as the Female Mind," designed by Margaret Pesek, with photo by Dave Johnson. Found at Christianbook.com

Content Note: Victim Blaming, Body ShamingDianna E. Anderson is hosting a synchroblog this week about contemporary Christian music (CCM) and how it affected the lives of those who grew up with it. I've already written one post on the subject explaining that, because of my ultra conservative upbringing, I wasn't the world's largest CCM fan. Relient K was one of only two Christian bands that I ever ended up liking (Five Iron Frenzy being the other). I have a special place in my heart for them s … [Read more...]

#PlanetCCM: When Planet IFB has no CCM

Dianna Anderson, my friend and fellow blogger, is hosting a synchroblog on contemporary Christian music (CCM) until the end of December. In her post announcing the synchroblog, she states "So here is our challenge: write a blog post about how CCM affected your life."At first, I planned to participate in this synchroblog by doing what I'm best at: analyzing Christian dating books. I was going to analyze the book The Complex Infrastructure Known as the Female Mind, which is based on Relient K … [Read more...]

Love And R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Image Found on Wikipedia (click for link). From Billboard, page 9, 15 July 1967

As regular readers know, I've recently read the Christian marriage book, Love and Respect (which was supposed to be included in my "You Are Not Your Own" series, but had to be cut due to time constraints), and have been discussing it here in blog posts and on Twitter.The big theme of the book--the one from which the title is derived--is author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs' theory that a man's primary need is respect, and a woman's primary need is love. Eggerichs' believes women need to learn how to … [Read more...]

The Magical Marriage Switch

This is a picture from Abe and my wedding. I took it.

[Content Note: Marital Sexual Coercion]Purity culture Christians like to think of marriage as  something almost magical. It's like flipping a magical switch where all the rules, standards, and beliefs about reality change. It's as if saying "I do" plummets you into an entirely new universe. Looking at how things change after the flipping of the magical marriage switch reveals some gaping holes in purity culture thinking.One of the most integral moments in my decision to say "screw … [Read more...]

Who’s Afraid of the Baby Jesus?

This is from Precious Moments--I got this image from Amazon.com (click for link)

Content note: brief mentions of child abuse, Christian patriarchy, Sovereign Grace MinistriesI remember a sermon I heard during chapel at my old Christian college around Christmas time. The speaker lamented the tendency to focus on baby Jesus around Christmas time. He chalked this up to a desire to make God/Jesus safe and gentle and helpless, and he called for us to instead think of God as the victorious, conquering, badass king from Revelation.This idea made a lot of sense to me at the t … [Read more...]

Further thoughts on the movie “Fireproof”

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As regular readers of this blog may know, I recently watched the terrible Christian movie "Fireproof" and wrote a blog post about it. You can read that blog post here.A few people have asked when I was going to share my livetweet session of this movie with the blogging world and I have finally gotten around to doing just that. Enjoy! [View the story "Fireproof" on Storify] … [Read more...]

What if God cares more about sexism than about how much you masturbate?

This is an image from the Jack Chick tract, "This Was Your Life" (h/t Nathan Redfield)

 "You may think your sins don't hurt anyone...but it hurts GOD."If you grew up in an evangelical or fundamentalist church, there's a good chance you heard this phrase growing up. I know I did. This was the phrase that pastors liked to whip out to counter this "liberal" idea that a sin is something that does harm in the world and hurts other people.In fact, these "don't harm anyone but GOD" sins are the ones evangelical Christians always seemed most concerned with (note: I d … [Read more...]


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