The 50 “Boy-less” White House Years (And Why They Might Matter to 21st Century Boys)

When was the last time a little boy was living in and running around the White House (and I mean a real little boy…not a President acting like a boy)?

  • President Obama? Raising two girls
  • President Bush? His two girls grew up in the White House
  • President Clinton? His daughter grew up in the White House
  • President H. Bush? His sons were grown men
  • President Carter? His daughter grew up in the White House
  • President Ford? Nope
  • President Nixon? Nope
  • President Johnson? Nope
  • President Kennedy?  Bingo.  It’s been 50+ years since a boy (John John) lived in the White House (and sadly, that didn’t last very long!)

Interesting trivia…But so what?

Consider this: Is it possible that there is a connection between the lack of little boys in the White House the last 50 years and the utter lack of national energy put into boys during that same time period?

Is it possible that there is a connection between the lack of little boys in the White House the last 50 years—and the preponderance of girls in the White House—and the national energy poured into girls and women during that same time period?

For example—and this is all conjecture but hopefully a conjecture worth mulling over—take the Obama Administration:

On March 11, 2009, the White House issued a press release announcing the formation of the President’s Council on Women and Children. “The purpose of this council is to ensure that American women and girls are treated fairly in all matters of public policy,” President Obama was quoted as saying.

Shortly after, an invitation went out to a few male leaders to begin advising the President on a similar Council for men and boys.  Nothing has happened.  And by all accounts, nothing happened because the President wasn’t engaged with the issue.

I don’t think it was intentional.  Could it be that the issue of boys is simply not on his radar?  He was raised by a strong woman.  He is married to a strong woman.  He is raising two girls.  He lives in a woman’s world in that sense.  He’s sensitive to the issues of women.  When charges of a “war on women” are shouted through the media, his ears perk up.  When the old storyline of girls falling behind boys is paraded again and again, he listens because he has daughters.  Raise the issue of boys, and it’s simply not on his radar.  It’s not that he doesn’t care.  Could it be that he is “tone deaf” to the needs of boys?

Could it be that for the last 50 years, with no little boy in the White House, our Presidents have unintentionally overlooked our boys because boys were not on their radars?  Carter, Clinton, W. Bush, and now Obama all raised girls in the White House.  It stands to reason that girls will be on the radar.  It stands to reason that anything to do with girls will of course capture the attention of these dads raising girls.

Could it be, then, that one of the many reasons why there is no national urgency about the plight of our boys is simply because we have these great dads in the White House doing what dads ought to do…looking out for their daughters?  What might culture look like if all of these Presidents had been raising boys?

Interesting stuff.  But what do we do with it?

Keep fighting the battle for boys on the grass roots level by:

  • Putting the issue of boys on the radar for our educators, the vast majority of whom are female and who may unintentionally miss the learning differences between boys and girls
  • Putting the issue of boys on the radar for church leaders, far too many of whom have intentionally or unintentionally skewed the Gospel to a female way of learning and hearing
  • Putting the issue of boys on the radar of those who still buy into the myth that girls are falling behind boys (they actually started passing boys in the 1980’s), including the media and local, state, and national leaders
  • Looking for some fresh, new, compelling, capable Presidential candidates from both parties who are raising boys!

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About Tim Wright

I've been a pastor in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America since 1984, currently serving as the founding pastor of Community of Grace in Peoria, AZ. My wife, Jan and I, were married in 1979. We raised two kids and currently have 3 grandkids. I love to ride my bike, travel, read British Mysteries, and Disneyland. I have written 6 books, including my newest--Searching for Tom Sawyer: How Parents and Congregations Can Stop the Exodus of Boys From Church. My website:

  • Sarah K Asaftei

    As the mother of both a son and a daughter, I see their differences very clearly. Thank you for this post – there simply should be no reason why either gender of children should be neglected in favor of the other. It’s not about educating boys over girls, or girls over boys. Can’t we just work to give excellence in education to both our sons AND our daughters? Why can’t we seek to give both genders the opportunity to excel, to lead, to learn?

    • RevTim

      Spot on and well said, Sarah!

  • Rick Lipary

    It’s pretty pathetic that we continue to get nothing but writer’s who are fronts for females! What makes this idiot think that none of these male damaging and destroying circumstances are intentionally arranged this way to hurt males!?

  • Tom Golden

    Thanks for your stewardship here Tim. Sadly, I don’t think that not having boys in the white house has been the reason for our interest in the needs and issues of girls and our blank stares when confronted with the needs of boys and men. This has been going on for a long, long time and I think it is more related to a survival issue, gynocentrism. In order for any culture to survive you need to protect the women and find ways for the men to be disposable. You can look at all of the wing flapping you want about how men have all the power but the bottom line is who does that power serve? Does it serve men or does it serve women. Even a quick look at our laws confirms that congress dances a happy dance to provide women and girls this and that and turns away from the issues of boys and men.