What the Hell is WRONG with these people? – UPDATED

What the hell is wrong with people? What the hell were these parents thinking? What was the school thinking? Is self-respect a concept utterly lost to this country?

These “adults” — school administrators and parents — clearly need to have their heads banged together until the stupid falls out:

As reported by the Minneapolis Star Tribune, a recent winter sports pep rally at Rosemount (Minn.) High featured a comedy skit which took advantage of unknowing captains of the various winter varsity squads. After the team captains walked into the gym blindfolded, they were told that they were going to be kissed by a special someone, and then were asked to guess who it was that kissed them.

You can see full video footage of the pep rally incident here, but beware, there are some moments that veer into “make out” territory and can come across as pretty inappropriate.

It turns out that the person who kissed the athletes — in every circumstance — was their own opposite sex parent. While no one has questioned the comedic intentions of the prank, the stunt itself has still drawn plenty of criticism not for the student athletes, but for what the parents did in executing the practical joke. As you can see above, some of the parents took their roles as “special someones” to a level that left many onlookers feeling uncomfortable and even queasy.

Queasy hell, I watched the video; it’s full-on disgusting. Incest Surprise! Let’s normalize incest, now!

It’s like a Jersey Shore mentality has infected the whole damn nation. The mother who puts her son’s hand on her butt? Har-har! What a joke.

This crap is so classless even my mother and her earthier relatives — who were not averse to doing a little bump-and-grind after the Brandy Alexanders — would be appalled!

The parents who agreed to do this, and were such enthusiastic participants? Creeps. Creeps.

I just want to take a hose to the whole boiling of them and then set loose the dogs.

Forget the sex-and-incest vibe;
it’s too creepy to dwell on. Ponder what sort of parents would want to embarrass their kids publicly like this, what sort of school would think so little of their student’s human dignity?

Is the whole nation full of people willing to do anything to feel noticed? To feel “cool”?

If that’s “cool” then to hell with it, I say. And my kids — the coolest people I know — would say to hell with it, too. But then we did raise up some genuine non-conformists.

This is a mindset that is light-years away from anything I can understand. And we’re supposed to somehow take comfort in the fact that — because people who were offended actually complained — the school “won’t repeat” that funny prank! No one seems to be asking some important questions:

1) If no one had complained, would anyone in authority at the school actually understood WHY this was a bad idea?

2) Who were the teachers/advisors of this activity? Will they be suspended, or reprimanded or sent for some sort of sensitivity training? No one loses a job over this?

Meanwhile, in another great decision in another great school, some students were just handed one-day suspensions. You know what for? TEBOWING!

Great values and priorities, don’t you think? These are the people teaching in our public schools? That explains a lot!

Deacon Greg a line from the story
that didn’t quite register at first:

Besides stupefied, you can also describe me as nauseated. Give that last line a gander, will you? “None of the students or parents involved in the kissing antics complained about the routine at all…” Let that sink in.

Of course not. No one wants to willingly go there, especially not in public. To say “I freaked out when I found out my father put his tongue in my mouth” would mean to follow it up with, “and now either I or he must leave the household.”

And what jock is going to say, “finding out my mother was straddling me in front of all of my friends is wrecking me…”

No, man, that’s not cool. To complain would only bring trouble, to everyone — the family, the school, the teachers.

It’s always the same with incest, even “fun” incest. The victim keeps quiet, so as not to further rock their own world.

And really, that means this isn’t just creepy. It’s evil.

Max Lindenman goes funny and grim
all over this story.

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  • Michelle

    Is there something in the water? I saw a similar prank on a “World’s Dumbest” show, in which a radio DJ was blindfolded on his birthday and asked to “feel up” the woman brought to him, who turned out to be, surprise!, his mom. I couldn’t even watch more than a few seconds and was disgusted with the stupid woman who thought it a great idea to humiliate her own son on his birthday like that.

  • http://dianesherlock.wordpress.com/ Diane

    You can never undo the damage of public humiliation and clearly anyone who would do so to their own child is not concerned with that kid’s welfare, let alone the idea of raising a good person. Robert McKee (screenwriting guru) used to say anything you can imagine, people have done it far worse and more often than you’d believe. So true. My two (and their friends) would say to hell with it as well. The “Snookization” of our culture is a very bad thing.

  • Elizabeth Schaffer

    As an educator in the state of Texas, I am obligated by law to report child abuse. This is sexual child abuse. Plain and simple… It fits every definition. If no one does anything in that state about this, they are all complicit in abusing children. Just because a teenager looks big and grown does not mitigate the fact that said teenager is still a child. This will psychologically and spiritually devastate these children no matter what their idiot parents think. Where is the Army of Heaven?! When will we all stand up and say NO MORE?!

  • Jen

    I don’t believe that none of those kids objected to being humiliated, used, and violated in that way. They may not be saying so out loud, but you can’t tell me a teenage boy feels great about having been kissed in public by his mother. Or a young girl by her father. The gross-factor here is just off the charts! I agree Elizabeth: What in the hell is wrong with these people? The school administrators should be fired, every teacher who participated should be fired, and the parents should be forced to stand on the street corner wearing a sign that says “I sexually abused my son/daughter in public for laughs. Because I’m a complete imbecile.”

  • http://www.conversiondiary.com/ Jennifer @ Conversion Diary

    One of these days I will stop being surprised by the depths of depravity that our society can sink to.

    Today is not the day.

  • megthered

    my kids would never speak to me again if I ever did anything like this. Of course, my husband would have had me comitted to an asylum if I ever thought this was cool. I would agree.

  • DMW

    This is completely disgusting, but even more than that it’s unexplainably bizarre.

  • http://www.sthubertsrosary.com shana

    They tease us here in WV about stuff like this all the time.

    Y’all owe us an apology.

  • JDC

    Is the whole nation full of people willing to do anything to feel noticed? To feel “cool”?

    What has this got to do with the whole nation? It’s a tiny, morally repugnant group of individuals (here including any possible third parties who dreamt up the prank). It really says nothing about anyone else who happens to inhabit the same geopolitically delimited landmass.

    In fact, I would submit that the widespread response of visceral disgust and abject bafflement points to the opposite of what you’re suggesting.

  • Anna

    What it has to do with the whole nation is that, if you read the comments under the links, only about half have a problem with the “stunt.” The other half want to know what the big deal is and accuse those who think this is wrong of being the perverts.

  • Max Lindenman

    Wow. Just watching that makes me feel like blinding myself and quitting Thebes to wander as a beggar.

  • Greta

    Simple folks. As long as a society goes along with legal murder of 4000 babies a day, there is no end to the depravity we will see. Wake up folks, we have killed 54 million innocent babies where God put them because it was designed by him as the most protected place on the planet, the loving mothers womb. 54% of Catholics voted for the most abortion loving president in history of our country. Yes, that is right, the guy listed on the abortion mill planned parenthood web site as a PARTNER in the white house.. saw this over at Deacons Bench in comment section… C:\Documents and Settings\Joe\Desktop\history-and-successes PLANNED PARENTHOOD_files\history-and-successes PLANNED PARENTHOOD.htm

    Quote at the bottom after their rant about those evil Republicans like W. Bush and his pro life postions which hurt the cause.

    “On January 20, 2009, a new day dawns for reproductive health and rights with the inauguration of President Barack Obama, who makes clear his commitment to ensuring access to comprehensive health care for women and their families. With a partner in the White House and allies in Congress, Planned Parenthood renews its efforts to help secure reproductive rights and define health care reform for the 21st century.”

  • Kurt

    I read the report about it on Yahoo this afternoon, but felt too sick at the thought to bother clicking on the video. I can’t even begin to imagine what is wrong with these people. And as Anna said, the comments are almost as galling as the incident itself because so many of the readers insist that it was all just “in good fun.” I’d say it’s just more evidence that the election of Obama three years ago is but a symptom of the troubles in our country.

  • Andrew B

    So, our culture has drawn a clear line as to what will get you in trouble at school–having a butter knife in your lunch box, giving a friend an aspirin or praying after a touchdown.

    Incest? Nothing wrong with that! To think otherwise would be to commit the only two sins left: judgementalism and being uncool.

  • Nancy

    It was revolting to watch, plain and simple. Watching the parents and teachers laughing and enjoying this made me want to vomit. THESE are the people educating those children?! God helps us all. Sick, sick, sick. This is supposed to be a pep rally? Whatever happened to cheerleaders, pom-poms, and the school fight song?! Now it’s an incest free-for-all. What parent in his or her right mind would EVER agree to do this?! This is exactly what happens when you take God out of schools. The evil one is laughing his head off.

  • fiestamom

    There’s no way I’m going to watch the video, just reading about this is literally making me sick to my stomach. But judging from the still picture, the pervert mom is dressed like a teenager. Were all the moms dressed like that? Our wonderful society where no one ever grows up, even the “hot” moms. I wished moms still dressed like June Cleaver. Ladies, you can shop in the grown up section of Macy’s and find some nice stuff and it doesn’t have to look frumpy. But stop dressing like your son’s girlfriend, please.

    While driving my kids to school this week, I was stopped in traffic behind another mom in a minivan. She had a bumper sticker that only had the word “atheist” on it, and on the other side of her window she had a one word bumper sticker with the word “MILF” on it. And the kids in the car were going to elementary school. I said about 50 St. Michael the Archangel prayers and prayed for her kids. But yeah, a mom with a MILF bumper sticker. Nice.

    Elizabeth Schaffer, you are correct, this needs to be reported as child abuse.

  • http://catholicsensibility.wordpress.com/ Todd

    To answer your question, they lack boundaries. In addition, their antics are reinforced by a certain mob mentality.

    This is somewhat worse than a harmless prank, and not quite as bad as sexual abuse, which goes on in secret and is hidden from view. I know people who have been sexually abused for real, and this doesn’t pass the sniff test. I’d prefer less alarming descriptions: dumb, thoughtless, crass.

    That said, what you behold here is playacting. People are attempting to play a role here, and in the context of distant observers, it doesn’t play well with us. I’m not surprised that nobody involved seems to be fessing up to its weirdness. In order to do that, they would have to break with the mob spirit, and that’s pretty tough to do. At least one commenter above can’t break from the anti-Obama spirit, and see what’s really going on in the video. And if you can’t diagnose the problem, you sure aren’t going to be on track for the cure.

    [Remarkable condescension. You explain it all to us, as though we're a bunch of children, and since you "know people who were sexually abused" you're clearly an expert on the subject and should by all means enlighten the rest of us. Forgive me, please, if I follow my own enlightenment over your garnered-through-friends "expertise". I grow very weary of you having all of the answers at your fingertips, and the condescending voice in which you bestow them upon us -admin]

  • Sarah

    I’m just thinking how I could never look at my father the same way if he did that to me.

    I could never be alone in the same room as him without thinking of that. I could never really trust him again.

    Those poor kids.

  • Bill M.

    Maybe they participated in a bid to get their own reality show.

  • http://www.ghpoetryplace.blogspot.com/ Maria Horvath

    I haven’t watched the video, and will not, but has anyone at all involved in setting this up explained the “thinking” (if you can call it that) behind this? It had to take some planning and preparation.

  • Gary Keith Chesterton

    “Like” is not the right word for this, somehow…

  • http://grainsofhope.wordpress.com/ Maryann

    This IS beyond disgusting. Shades of Caanan!

    On Teebowing: If only it were about people taking time for prayer, but I heard an interview with one of the boys who was suspended. He said he just did it because he thought it would be ‘cool’. No mention of prayer in his interview. The kids were disrupting the flow of traffic in the hallway between classes. There is something about disrespect in this action as well. Generally, time between classes is very limited. It would have been better if they bowed (to say a quick prayer) near the sides of the hallway rather than blocking their classmates in their progress to the next class on their schedules.

  • jkm

    Max Lindenman does a great job reimagining this as a 21st century Oedipus, with the combox as chorus. http://www.patheos.com/blogs/diaryofawimpycatholic/2011/12/oedipus-in-the-heartland-choruses-in-the-combox/
    In addition to being utterly creeped out by the news item and applauding Max’s allusion, I started thinking that probably no one in that high school gym would know Oedipus from Mr. Ed. And that got me wondering which we lost first—our sense of healthy shame or the art that enforced and helped us deal with it. Our popular entertainment now (and that’s what this stunt was, another attempt to out-reality reality TV) is reduced to the unhealthy side of shame: the sniggering sex jokes, the obsession with fourth-grade-boy bathroom humor, the sickeningly gratuitous violence inevitably delivered onstage, if not in 3D. Classically, these things were dispensed with in the satyr play prelude or the comic relief in the midst of Ophelia’s funeral. Now they are the only vision of our humanity we allow ourselves. I wonder if, when kids say about something trivial that strikes them as off, “That’s just wrong, that’s just SO wrong,” they aren’t, like toddlers secretly begging us to enforce bedtime, aching for reminders that not anything goes.

  • Blake Helgoth

    Why in the world would you send your kids to a state school? These people are the product of state schools. They have been dumbed down (obviously) by the system so that they will easily take their place in the corporate machine, do their work and not ask any questions. I have come to understand that state schooling is diametrically opposed to the Catholic faith. Things like this make me think it would be better for a kid to wander the streets all day than to spend their time n a state school. What is wrong with people. A real man would have knocked any of those other men into tomorrow and put a stop to the entire affair!

  • Howard

    @Todd. You are wrong that all abuse is done in secret. And by doing this in public, it is in a sense more secret than if it had been done in secret. If it had been hidden, the kids could have complained about it, and there would have been an investigation. When it is done in public, it is a “joke”, and THEY KNOW THAT NONE OF THE PEOPLE WHO WERE LAUGHING AT IT WILL SUPPORT THEM. They know they will get no help.

    Five kings rule o’er the Amorite,
    Mighty as fear and old as night;
    Swathed with unguent and gold and jewel,
    Waxed they merry and fat and cruel.
    Zedek of Salem, a terror and glory,
    Whose face was hid while his robes were gory;
    And Hoham of Hebron, whose loathly face is
    Heavy and dark o’er the ruin of races;
    And Piram of Jarmuth, drunk with strange wine,
    Who dreamed he had fashioned all stars that shine;
    And Debir of Eglon wild, without pity,
    Who raged like a plague in the midst of his city;

  • Howard

    Amorite and American even sound a bit alike. And our iniquity is almost full.

  • http://catholicsensibility.wordpress.com/ Todd

    Howard, I disagree. A true friend would help someone in this situation, if help were asked. I found viewing the video creepy and crass, but not as bad as y’all were saying, and not akin to sexual abuse. Which is more about power and control than sex.

    It’s really more like bullying and mob mentality that takes place in high school. As a high school student, I learned that teachers and administrators are not immune to adolescent behavior: gossiping, inappropriate language, and the like. It was clear to me as a teen whom I would respect, and whom I would count as a dork with a teacher’s degree.

    I agree with Blake that this is actually conservative behavior: don’t buck the system, don’t speak out, go with the crowd. The current system is hypersexualized, and unfortunately for the students, any protest on this matter is pretty well stacked against them. I don’t have any doubt that the internet crowd will pick up the banner and run with this. I’m just saying it’s not terribly productive to get too outraged by an adolescent prank, even if it has five million viewers.

    [It's amazing how even this can end up being drawn into liberal vs conservative, lines by some. Unreal. I think it's remarkable that people on the left still see themselves as trend-bucking braves, but beyond that, this is not an "adolescent prank." It was put together by so-called adults. But then many adults have never mentally developed past the age of 14. I guess you'd call them conservatives, too, since you know...they resist change or something. -admin]

  • Mouse

    This is what you get after 50 years of sexual license and moral relativism, and a TV-Internet culture dumping sensuality-stirring garbage and even perversion into people’s minds 24/7. Just wait about 20 years (maybe less) when incest is made legal as long as it’s consenting. They will say, as they already say, “who are you to tell me what to do with my own body, or with whom?” If it was almost legislated recently that bestiality (along with sodomy) should be legal in the ranks of the army, what do we expect? That law failed to pass, but BARELY!!! Next time unless there is massive moral conversion in this country, it will probably pass…

  • Marius

    Our culture’s total obsession with sex is a very intriguing subject. I don’t quite know what to make out of it but my gut feeling is that humanity is moving into the sub-animal level by abandoning all pragmatic and natural behavior for the pleasure principle (unlike the animals which always fulfill their natural roles because they have no choice) and thus heading for spiritual – and, eventually, physical – extinction. The rampant homosexual propaganda is a very good case in point. We might have already passed the point of no return in this respect. From the Christian perspective, it makes me think that perhaps the number of 144,000 saved souls is not really too low…8)

  • Deb

    Our society is suffering from severe spiritual sickness. May the Lord have mercy on those who continue to demean human beings in all ways.

  • lethargic

    I’m not watching the video, but it’s all of a piece … homosexual “marriage,” the Lehi, UT polygamists suing the state for the right to have polygamist “marriage,” the hypersexualization of everyone (from 2 to 92) and everything in our culture … what’s a little incest for the stewpot? … sadly, it’s all of a piece. Days are, I’m glad that I’ll probably die young … and I love the corrected missal “I look forward to the resurrection of the dead and the life of the world to come.” … boy do I ever …

  • fiestamom

    Todd agrees with Blake that this is “conservative behavior”. What?

  • http://www.energeticprocession.wordpress.com Perry Robinson

    I think I just threw up a little in my mouth. I seriously am shocked and not much shocks me anymore. The culture has really gone to the Sodomites. I think its going to get worse before it gets better. The upside is that it gives us a great apologeitc, one that doesn’t require reason, just eyeballs. Look at that. you can either live like them or live like us-there is NO middle ground anymore.

  • Rhinestone Suderman

    Marius, I don’t know if it’s our culture in general that’s obsessed with sex, so much as it is one generation—-the Boom Generation.

    And yes, I know, there are lots of good Boomers; but it does seem to me that our culture’s current obsession, not only with the stranger varieties of sex, but also foul language, nudity, unrination, defecation and potty humor in general got its start back in the 60′s, with underground comics, student protesters, foul-mouthed comedians and supposedly edgey films, and shows.

  • Rhinestone Suderman

    fiestamom, “Conservative” means whatever Todd wants it to mean. (Usually, something bad.)

  • Rhinestone Suderman

    Myself, I’ve been thinking of giving up popular culture altogether, for New Year’s.

    The more I think about it, the better an idea it seems to be.

  • Jerry

    Revolting, yes, and the implicit incestuousness is reason enough to slap down the school personnel and parents who participated. How can they be such chowderheads? But am I the first to comment on the inherent cruelty of this stunt? The reason for the laughter is that the blindfolded teens have been humiliated. Fooled you, didn’t we, ha, ha! Caught you smooching your parent like a lover, ha, ha! Moreover, they have been robbed of some innocence. (Freud would sure like to hear about those testosterone-charged boys’ dreams that night.) There are chaste kisses, and there are romantic kisses–and the latter aren’t good for normal child-parent relationships.
    Jesus wept. Me too.

  • Don Surber

    I’m with Shana:

    “They tease us here in WV about stuff like this all the time. Y’all owe us an apology.”

  • georgia hedrick

    No thanks on watching the video. I read all the comments. If what happened, really happened this is a very sick school system and an extremely mentally ill part of our country.

    My first thought on hearing of this behavior was: ‘I bet this happened somewhere in the South, some southern state.” I say this because of the mindset I learned when I taught in Louisiana–I was 22 years old when JFK was assassinated. I remember when the announcement came over the P.A. system, every kid in my 6th grade classroom CHEERED! i was horrified and asked: ‘why would you cheer?’ One little girl stood up and answered: “you a yankee northerner; you don’t understand us. He tried to change our way of life…”
    No, I don’t understand this mindset. No way. It is too sick for me to even understand. gh

  • georgia hedrick

    Saddest part is: it was in Minnesota. So the sickness of the South has now wended its way north, up the Mississippi River, to where the River begins. Sad and sick. gh

  • Teresa

    This story is truly disgusting. Someone at the school needs to be fired but it won’t happen. After all nobody took an aspirin without permission which would have been a grave offense. I read that in the Defense appropriations bill our legislators removed the ban on sodomy and bestiality from the rules so our service folks can freely participate in such activity. The section was removed from the final bill, but only after it was publicized. Think about that. It was removed only because they received massive complaints. What kind of legislator would remove the ban in the first place!

  • http://www.azoic.com/ Irenaeus of New York

    Sickening doesnt quite capture all the emotions.

  • http://catholicsensibility.wordpress.com/ Todd

    “Remarkable condescension”


    I just don’t fly in this flock. It’s not nearly enough for me to call this prank crass, creepy, and juvenile. The problem with me, as I see it on this thread, is that I don’t parrot the party line. Funny, but it seems this video is all about parroting the group-think.

    “It’s amazing how even this can end up being drawn into liberal vs conservative, lines by some”

    I’d check out the 6am comment. Hint: object of parody in later comments.

    “But then many adults have never mentally developed past the age of 14.”

    Yes, I think this covers it.

    [There is no "party line" here. But you're right, yes. It covers it -admin]

  • Mack Hall

    The second thing that is wrong is that probably no one responding to this posting voted in his or her last school board election, has never voted in a school board election, and will never vote in a school board election.

  • Patricia Cornell

    This is really, really bad, double bad! What is even worse is the situation in every one of these homes day after day after day, passing in the home hallway, eating meals, chatting…..their whole relationships are completely changed. I am surprised a large fire has not dropped down from the sky and consumed the entire town!

    Someone should do a study on each family and see what weird things occur in the future,….broken homes, more child abuse, etc, etc, etc.

    I won’t see the video, thank you very much!

    Patricia in St. Louism, MO

  • http://www.energeticprocession.wordpress.com Perry Robinson


    How do we get from group think, to, false?

  • Steve

    I’m surprised they didn’t have some same sex parents grope their kids. That would have been way cool.

  • Meridith

    Alright, I made myself watch the video, and I have to say yuck! You can’t tell me that they did not humiliate their kids by doing this stuff. One of the boys at the very end look horrified and disgusted. But hey, at least the so called “grown ups” got to have a good laugh right! They owe their children “public” apologies because they embarrassed them in a very public way.

  • georgia hedrick

    ‘group think?????’ Add that to a sickening idea on video is the concept that comments are a result of ‘group think’. I don’t see a ‘group think’ going on.

    And yes, I voted in all elections, right down to school board members.

    And Todd, you sound just like the rest of us, frankly. We are all disgusted over this sort of school that allows such behavior. You fly along with the rest of us.

  • Ellen

    Good luck with Todd Flowerday, admin. After reading his postings and comments for nigh on 10 years now around the blogosphere, I think “condescending” must, indeed be his middle name.