If this is Sisterhood, Include Me Out!

I’ve confessed more than once that, while working with stockbrokers, I got into a bad habit of cussing; I believe I’ve referred to it as having slipped into “the sailor’s tongue.” I still indulge it — infrequently, but too often.

Yesterday we were treated to headlines about a particularly foul-mouthed tirade indulged in by a woman named Barbara Morgan, who is apparently Anthony Weiner’s spokesperson.

The Weiner story is for other blogs — I’m not interested it — but someone sent me this piece about Morgan’s apology for her outburst, and I was struck by this:

“In a moment of frustration, I used inappropriate language in what I thought was an off the record conversation,” Ms. Morgan said in a statement. “It was wrong and I am very sorry, which is what I said tonight when I called and emailed Olivia to apologize.”

I applaud Ms. Morgan for acknowledging that she was wrong and actually saying “I’m sorry”, thus avoiding the ersatz “if any offense was taken” apology that has become the political standard.

Still, her statement bothers me because it seems to imply that as long as one is engaging in an off-the-record conversation, it is perfectly fine (or only schoolmarmishly “inappropriate”) for one woman to call another woman every filthy, demeaning name in the book — the kind of deeply offensive names that could ruin a man’s career, if uttered. Good to know.

This is “sisterhood”? This is women self-actualized and “making a difference” in the world because of their uniquely feminine perspectives? If so, it looks like utter crap, to me.

The value of a philosophy can be measured by its product. So often, the product of modern feminism is revealed to be nothing more than women becoming everything they said they hated about men.

A poor product, then. Also good to know.

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  • Lacy

    Excellent point.

  • avalpert

    I don’t see it. She didn’t qualify the admission that her language was inappropriate, she didn’t qualify that what was wrong was that it became part of the public record, she acknowledged that she used inappropriate language out of frustration that itself is what she was sorry for.

  • Suburbanbanshee

    There are very few occasions in life where one needs more than the most minimal cusswords, even when unable to control frustration or anger, since one can repeat those words or use them as different parts of speech. Alternatively, one might learn a vast vocabulary of truly creative swearwords, although this is indeed best left to sailors and Marines.

    This woman has achieved neither ladylike speech, nor utilitarian swearing, nor creative swearing. Instead, she sounds like some demented sorority version of a crazed, drunken misogynist. The words that are coming out are not even sane cusswords.

  • vox borealis

    “In a moment of frustration, I used inappropriate language in what I thought was an off the record conversation,”

    She double qualified, though it is masked by the odd word order, with mitigating circumstances bracketing the admission. Translation: “I used inappropriate language (apology) in a moment of frustration (mitigating circumstance—I was angry, not thinking clearly) in what I thought was an off the record comment (mitigating circumstance—I thought the tape recorders were off and we were all just fooling around, so I let fly some nasty language not meant for anyone outside the inner sanctum to hear…oops, my bad).

  • Dale

    Haven’t women often used strong language about a person who betrayed them? In past times, the betrayer may have been a cheating husband, or perhaps “the other woman.” In Morgan’s case, it was a political partner. But is the difference significant? Why would feminism change how women react to being betrayed? I guess I don’t understand the point Elizabeth is making.

  • MeanLizzie

    Did you use the words she used? I’m sorry…maybe I’m an old lady. I thought “c**t” was something that was simply never said. Now women can say it about other women? Well, f*ck me! :-)

  • Eve Fisher

    While abhorrent, this is not new – women were calling other women the “c” word back in the 1950′s (when I was a child and overhearing the adult women talking amongst themselves over cards). I have no idea why Ms. Scalia instantly blames the name-calling on “sisterhood” or “feminism” – my friends don’t use this language to or about each other. I would blame the name-calling on a society which encourages flagrantly bad behavior (sexting, anyone? reality TV shows, anyone? politics as it is currently practiced, anyone?) in order to win elections, get attention, and become a celebrity (and, therefore, money and a career of sorts) in the shortest amount of time. Nothing to do with feminism.

  • Win Nelson

    We are all human, but I read this and ask where are the grownups?

  • AnneG

    Yet another political girl proving girls make really bad men.
    Ps I said it on purpose.

  • http://ashesfromburntroses.blogspot.com/ Manny

    I was hoping that Catholic Patheos would be the one place that would be Weiner free…But alas even here we have to bear this cross. ;)

  • Peg

    “Off the record” means “it’s OK as long as nobody gets hurt”. It’s wrong, of course, but that is what many believe.

  • virago

    As a former feminazi, I always connected the term “Sisterhood” with extreme leftist sensibilities and since I no longer live there I see it for the intellectual bankrupt mental real estate it is. I am an independent woman, I no longer adhere to a set of ideas that dictate my behaviour just because,……, I don’t change my values etcetera….
    I pray and that is how I’m guided. It took years to get here and I’m still not very good about relinquishing control of my life to God (relinquishing control to the feminists was easier as they were in my face) but I’m trying.

    Feminism is dead. Thank you, Jesus.

    These views are my own and reflect only MY experience with the Feminist movement.

    Thank you , jonna

  • Jakeithus

    “the kind of deeply offensive names that could ruin a man’s career” – Thanks for bringing that point up, it didn’t occur to me when I first heard the story. You’re completely right, I can only imagine the reaction that might have taken place if it was a man saying those things about a woman.

    It’s why it always bugs me to see things framed solely on the basis of gender. Men being disrespectful to women is a problem, but like this shows, women can be just as disrespectful to other women. That tells me the bigger problem is people being disrespectful to each other, regardless of their sex.

  • Sydney Goddard

    Sorry, it is not dead and never will be. Just because your politics and religious beliefs do not agree with a feminist philosophy does not make it bad or evil or dead. Anymore than my dislike of your post makes your ideas or values any of those things. They simply do not work for me.

  • valleys of neptune

    Wasn’t there a conspiracy theory about Huma Abedin being an Islamist a while back? Looks like Weiner has put his foot down, if his wife’s career is suffering thanks to his activities. That world takeover will just have to wait.

  • virago

    Agreed, of course!!! That is why I said my post reflects my experiences, only. Many paths, I’m sorry if my post was abrasive. I’m sure your experiences were different and it may that we both are traveling different paths to the same destination. Feminism is a school of thought, the experience singular for all. don’t think I made a judgement toward you or anyone else. I wrote clumsily. Feminism is dead or should I just say not for me. The meaning is the same. Did not mean to offends. Ideas are worthy and I did not mean to use this idea as a weapon. Jonna