The penchant for purity will kill the church

I am watching from a distance as I see The United Methodist Church slowly disintegrate into irreconcilable factions led, kind of, by a group of paralyzed Bishops. At this point, they appear to be unable to even come to a consensus on who to put on a committee to address the issues nibbling away and destroying [Read More…]

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The Debate Version of When an “anyone but Hillary” is married to an “anyone but Donald

Separate rooms, separate TV’s. For the first time in our married life, we will not watch TV together. It’s been one of our things: if we are going to watch TV, we need to do it together. We’ve done this from the beginning and will continue to do so. But not tonight. We talked about [Read More…]

When an “anyone but Donald” is married to an “anyone but Hillary” part seven

This is a series of the ongoing saga of a newly married couple with radically different political views. Part one is here. Part two is here. Part three is here. Part four is here. Part five is here. Part six is here. I honestly do keep trying to convince myself that all will somehow be OK even [Read More…]

STORKS: just plain good family fun

I was invited to review STORKS last night. It opens in wide release this weekend. After settling in the seats reserved for the press, I noticed that there were a lot of young children present for the preview. Lots of restlessness in the theater and I picked up on curt corrections of some harried parents. [Read More…]

Ask the Thoughtful Pastor: how did you escape your right-wing religious past?

Dear Thoughtful Pastor: To say the religious right wreacked havoc with my spiritual life would be an understatement. It has been several years since my wife and I made our exit from that world and we still have not recovered. I still have anger and bitterness that I deal with. Unfortunately, we live in the [Read More…]

Ask the Thoughtful Pastor: birth control, barrenness, and God’s curse

Dear Thoughtful Pastor: I have family members who believe that using birth control is sinful because children are a blessing from God. They believe that people who use birth control are not only sinful but exceedingly selfish for not wanting children. They also believe that barrenness is a curse from God. I think they are [Read More…]

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The view from the pew, reflections from a retired clergy: guilt and peace edition

The Guilt Factor I’ve been retired from formal ministry for nearly three years now. Frankly, Christianity looks a lot different from the pew–and away from the church bubble. I just wrote a resignation letter to a non-profit agency where I have sat on the Board of Directors. I believe strongly in the mission and appreciate the [Read More…]

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Murdering hands, dead acquaintances, broken logic

Countless times I have touched someone and they ended up dead just a few days or even hours later. Some were dear friends, others I had just met. Then there is my mother, my father, my father’s brother, a close neighbor and friend–all four of these I was with either the day they died or [Read More…]

Sully–the story behind the story

“We already know the ending–not sure why they made the movie.” I made that comment to my husband as we drove to the press preview for the movie, “Sully.” It goes into wide release this Friday, September 9, 2016. And yes, we all know the ending. Captain “Sully” Sullenberger, flying US Airways Flight 1549, landed [Read More…]

Ask the Thoughtful Pastor: what are family values and do the people that teach them have them?

Dear Thoughtful Pastor: What ARE traditional family values and who decided? Why is it such a buzz word and why is it a red flag to some of us?  Who says my values are untraditional? And if they are whose business is it? What is the obsession with uniformity and control? How do these values [Read More…]