Adam on E-Friendship

Adam Walker-Cleaveland’s posts have lessened in both frequency and profundity since he graduated from Princeton Seminary and entered the workaday world of church ministry.  But occasionally he drops a gem that reminds us of why Pomomusings charted the course for emergent movement blogs.  He posted on friendship in the internet world on Monday.  Money quote:

Un-friending People

Another interesting question is the idea of “un-friending” people on
Facebook and other social networking sites. One of my friends from
Columbia Seminary, Jeff, has held two rounds so far of the “Facebook
Friend Clear-Out” (I actually got cut in the second round, but I’m back
in now – no worries). What does it mean to un-friend people in an era
of social networking? I went through a phase when I first started with
Facebook that I would just accept anyone’s Friend Request that came in.
However, around six months ago, I started to think “I should really go
in and trim down those friends…” But – are we at a stage yet where that
is acceptable Facebook/MySpace etiquette? Or is that something that
would still be seen as an affront against the person you’re removing as
a “friend?”

Read the rest of Adam’s post here.  There’s already a good, thoughtful string of comments, too.

  • cp

    Yet another reason why I am happily Facebook-free . . . The idea of an onslaught of correspondence from minor acquaintances, random coworkers I try to avoid in person, my boss, high school friends I’ve long since outgrown, etc. is absolutely daunting. It’s just adds to the flood of constant stimulation that rips me away from focusing on my intimate relationships with those whom I love in 3-D.
    A good friend of mine recently deleted her page because it was not contributing positively to her emotional health. She has been joyful ever since and never looked back.

  • Korey

    Categorization of Facebook “friends” is indispensable. Plus it’s private. As far as all my “Friends” are concerned, they’re all equal. But with categorization, I may have them in my acquaintance group, college friends, or what have you. This allows me just to accept anyone as a “Friend” and then put them in a category (except I stipulate that I’ve actually physically met them and remember having done so). Sounds a bit rude I guess, but just electronically documenting my mental organization of people I know.
    Facebook moderation is vital like anything I guess. If you can’t keep away from it, time to quit cold turkey. I quit playing MMORPGs (WoW) in 2005 for my emotional health and due to what I found as the soul destroying aimlessness of it.


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