No Cause for Celebration: Question Three of Ten

 


   Taking The Dave Test during the Holidays

                                    Question Three: “Can I avoid using stained glass language?”

                                             

Introduction to the series

Much of the last year was thread through with considerable loss.  My brother, Dave, battled a fatal brain cancer for nearly eight years and he died this last January as the result of a fall that was due in large part to his disease.  He would have been 58 years old in October.

In reaction to Dave’s quest to find a durable faith and supportive friends, I wrote a book called The Dave Test, which was just released by Abingdon Press The book distills Dave’s quest into ten questions that any of us can ask ourselves, when we are in one of life’s hard places or when we are trying to support those we love.  Whether that hard place revolves around divorce, death, unemployment, abuse, illness, or some other misfortune, I hope that the questions I ask and the answers the book offers will help us all sit a bit more easily with life’s ragged edges.

Over ten weeks I plan to apply the questions in The Dave Test to our preparation for the holidays.  At this time of year for many there is — as the expression goes — “no cause for celebration.”  But I am convinced that there is reason for hope and I don’t believe that we need to navigate the holidays alone.  I hope that the book and this application of The Dave Test’s  principles to the holidays will help ease the sense of isolation that is so much a part of life for many of us at this time of year.

 

This week’s Dave Test question: “Can I avoid using stained-glass language?”

A life-long college friend recently lost his uncle.  Theirs was one of those close relationships that make the familial title, “uncle,” far more than a family tree designation.  Mark visited his Uncle Fletcher on a regular basis and they had long, memorable conversations about life and God. Every time Mark left to go back to college, his uncle would give him a significant amount of money to help address his financial needs, giving him a hug and telling him, “God told me to give this to you.”  Although they didn’t see eye-to-eye on every issue, they maintained an intimate, loving relationship and Mark was hit hard by his death.

When Fletcher died, inevitably the extended family exchanged reactions to his death and they did some of it on Facebook. When Mark posted a comment about how sad he was at Fletcher’s death, a family member quoted a bit of Scripture and declared, “Don’t be sad.  Let’s celebrate!”  Having read The Dave Test, Mark wrote to say, “Stained glass Christianity is alive and well in my family.”

Stained glass language takes many forms.  In some cases, it involves spinning out long, meaningless sentences that appear to say a lot in theological language but, in fact, say very little at all — talking about grace or blessings in disguise or being saved, without ever unpacking what that language means.  At other times, it takes the form of religious assertions that either don’t connect with real life, or dismiss how hard life can be.  The reaction of Mark’s family member to his uncle’s death fell into the last category.

Because many of the holidays that we celebrate are religious, it is easy to rely on stained glass language in addressing the needs of those who have no cause for celebration thanks to unemployment, death, illness, or other kinds of loss.  I can’t count the number of preachers I have heard string together an endless list of theological terms all in the effort to say something meaningful and faithful that ends up saying nothing at all.  One of my favorite illustrations was a sermon I heard sometime ago in which the preacher suggested that when we confront tragedy, we should affirm the goodness of God’s creation, like “little children’s laughter, puppy dogs, and mangos — mmmmm, I love mangos.”  The combination of the stained glass language and naiveté in that sermon was stunning and I wondered how people in real pain would react to the recommendation that they give thanks for mangos.  But, of course, it isn’t just preachers who say that kind of thing.  We tend to parrot what we hear in our churches, synagogues, and mosques.

How do we talk about God and hope during the holidays in ways that avoid stained-glass language?  Keep it real.  I noted in an earlier blog in this series that most of our holidays were forged around events that were marked by suffering, death, and disappointment.  Most of the religious language we use originally had its roots in those experiences.

The Psalmists, for example, did not wrap their frustration and bewilderment in language that made it all about religion, and they didn’t talk about God in ways that their faith lost relevance for their lives.  They talked about real feelings and they spoke immediately to God about what they were experiencing.  They said things like, “My enemies are pursuing me,” “My body is failing,” and “Why have you forsaken me?”  In fact, over two thirds of the Psalms are either laments or calling down God’s anger on the enemies of the writer.  Right or wrong, they kept it real.

Do the same — for yourself and for others when life comes unglued.  Mark needed the room to grieve.  He needed the room to say, “This saddens me.”  And he needed to be able to ask and answer the question that only God could answer, “What now?”  When there’s no cause to celebrate, room to do that is the only way we can begin to reconnect with the hope that our holidays offer us.

 

For more on taking The Dave Test during the holidays:

Question One: “Can I say life sucks?”

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/whatgodwantsforyourlife/2013/11/no-cause-for-celebration-question-one-of-ten/

Question Two: “Can I give up my broken gods?”

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/whatgodwantsforyourlife/2013/11/no-cause-for-celebration-question-two-of-ten/

To read more about The Dave Test, or to order a copy:

http://frederickwschmidt.com/about-the-book/

(Click on the book to order)

 

 

About Frederick Schmidt

The Reverend Dr. Frederick W. Schmidt, Jr. holds the Rueben P. Job Chair in Spiritual Formation at Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary in Evanston, IL, and directs the Job Institute for Spiritual formation. He is an Episcopal Priest, spiritual director, retreat facilitator, conference leader, writer, and Consulting Editor at Church Publishing in New York. He is the author of numerous published articles and reviews, including forty-four entries in Doubleday’s Anchor Bible Dictionary, as well as articles in Feminist Theology and The Scottish Journal of Theology. He is author of A Still Small Voice: Women, Ordination and the Church (Syracuse University Press, 1998), The Changing Face of God (Morehouse, 2000), When Suffering Persists (Morehouse, 2001), in Italian translation: Sofferenza, All ricerca di una riposta (Torino: Claudiana, 2004), What God Wants for Your Life (Harper, 2005), Conversations with Scripture: Revelation (Morehouse, 2005) and Conversations with Scripture: Luke (Morehouse, 2009). His latest work, The Dave Test (Abingdon Press) will appear in the autumn of 2013. He is also the series editor for the new Anglican Association of Biblical Scholars Study Series.

From 2000-2012, he worked as Director of Spiritual Life and Formation and Associate Professor of Christian Spirituality at Southern Methodist University, Perkins School of Theology in Dallas, Texas. As one of Perkins’ senior administrators, Dr. Schmidt was responsible for programs in formation, serving over 500 students. He developed the School's program in Spiritual Direction which has thus far served over 150 students from across the country; the program in Anglican and Episcopal studies; and the spiritual formation track in the Doctor of Ministry program. Prior to his arrival at SMU, he served as Canon Educator, Director of Programs in Spirituality and Religious Education, and Acting Program Area Manager at Washington National Cathedral. In this capacity Dr. Schmidt was responsible for the development of a program of religious education and spirituality that annually provided resources for broad-based audiences of over 5000 adults. He also designed and produced workshops and seminars for ecumenical and interfaith constituencies; hosted foreign dignitaries from the Middle East and the former Soviet Union on behalf of the Meridian Institute; and developed the programmatic work and daily operations of the Cathedral Center for Prayer and Pilgrimage. Before going to the Cathedral, Dr. Schmidt served as special assistant to the President and Provost of La Salle University in Philadelphia and as a Fellow of the American Council on Education. From 1994 to 1995, he resided in Jerusalem, where he was Dean of St. George’s College and Residentiary Canon of the Cathedral Church of St. George the Martyr. He has also served in numerous parishes, including St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, All Saints Episcopal Church in Hershey, Pennsylvania and St. Luke’s Episcopal Church in Dallas, Texas.

His work in higher education includes service as associate professor of New Testament Studies, as a lecturer in New Testament studies at Oxford University, and as a tutor at Keble College, Oxford. He has been a guest lecturer at the Smithsonian Institute in Washington, DC, at the National Cancer Institute in Bethesda, Maryland and the Southwestern Medical Center at the University of Texas, Dallas.

Dr. Schmidt holds a bachelor’s degree from Asbury College, the Masters of Divinity from Asbury Theological Seminary and the Doctor of Philosophy from Oxford University. His honors include a Fellowship in administrative leadership with the American Council on Education; a Senior Fellowship with the W.F. Albright Institute of Archaeological Research; the Young Scholars Fellowship presented by the Catholic Biblical Association; nomination to Class XI of the Clergy Leadership Project, sponsored by Trinity Church, Wall Street; the Angus Dun Fellowship (Episcopal Diocese of Washington); and an Ecumenical Service Award given by Christian Churches United (an ecumenical organization covering a tri-county area and based in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania). He is a recipient of the F. W. Dillstone Scholarship awarded by Oriel College, Oxford; the Hall Houghton Studentship awarded by the Theology Faculty of Oxford University; and an Overseas Research Student Award, presented by the Committee of Vice Chancellors and Principals of the Universities of the United Kingdom. Dr. Schmidt is a member of the American Academy of Religion, the Society of Biblical Literature, the Catholic Biblical Association, the Society for the Scientific Study of Religion, and the Society for the Study of Christian Spirituality. From 1998 to 2000 he served as a member of the Institutional Review Board for Heart, Lung and Blood Research at the National Institutes of Health and he currently serves on two Data Safety Monitoring Boards for NIH. He is Secretary-Treasurer of the Anglican Association of Biblical Scholars and a member of the Board of Examining Chaplains for the Episcopal Church, USA.

In addition to his work in the academy and the church Dr. Schmidt currently serves as a patient safety and ethics consultant on Data Safety Monitoring Boards for the National Institutes of Health and Allergan, Inc.

He lives with his wife, Natalie (who is also an academic and an Episcopal priest), and Hilda of Whitby, their Gordon Setter.


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