“To make mistakes is human. To suffer from regret is a choice.”~ Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos
What is one of the most painful conditions with which we can live? Is it suffering from arthritis that aches our joints or migraine headaches that dull our thoughts? I believe the answer is the heart and soul pain of regret. During COVID-19 and sheltering in place, many of our memories plague us with echoes of regret. They reverberate down the halls of our minds and whisper to us in our dreams. What can we do to make our regret stop, and what do these memories want from us?
It was my pleasure to interview author and motivational speaker Codi Shewan on the Dreaming Healing Video Podcast, posted at the bottom of this blog for your viewing pleasure.
Codi travels the world encouraging people to live life more purposefully, an essential message during these troubling times. Recently, one of his inspirational videos went viral, garnering more than three hundred thousand views in under 48 hours.
But before this, he had a 20–year career in a very unique role: as a funeral director. Seems unrelated, right? But actually, his experiences facing death and dying every single day taught him a lot of lessons about life and living, especially during these challenging times with coronavirus.
“Often, people have to experience something tragic, like COVID, to truly take stock of the value of life, but it doesn’t have to be that way. We can live more fully, more purposefully today,” Codi Shewan says. “So often when I arranged funerals, I would hear what I’ve come to call ‘Echoes of Regret’ – people wishing they had spent more time with those who mattered, given one more hug, or told their loved ones how they truly felt. Everyday Legacy helps readers show up more powerfully every day, and realize the impact they’re making while they’re still here.”
Author Codi Shewan spent two decades working in the death-care profession until, in 2014, he leaped from an executive position in corporate funeral services to the entrepreneurial world. As a consultant and speaker, he’s on a mission to redefine “legacy” as something that you personify each day of your life. Codi says, “You can realize the power of your own positive influence while you’re still here.”
“Living―not leaving―a legacy is about knowing what is important in your life, and making intentional choices about who you show up as in the world, each day,” Shewan adds. “My goal is to inspire people to take positive action in their life and live with more purpose, right now. I’ve seen how transformative living more intentionally can be.”
Codi was so focused on sharing his knowledge about the regrets people often have he wrote a book to help navigate the dark rocky waters of regret titled, Everyday Legacy: Lessons for Living With Purpose, Right Now.
On this video show, he also shares with you how and why he became the founder of From Strangers To Family, an experience that helps people feel connected, in an often disconnected world. For more information, visit everydaylegacy.com
As we hunker down in our digs, we have time to think, and regret often rears its ugly head.
However, this time of social distancing and sheltering in place may be an opportunity to face our regrets and turn them into positive opportunities for a “coming-to-Jesus” healing session with ourselves.
Here are 3 things you can do to overcome unresolved regrets during and after COVID:
- Dream Therapy- Dreams are our Inner-Dr. Freud. Dreams are problem solvers. Keep a dream journal beside your bed. Write and say, “My ‘Dream Intention’ is to solve this regret write it out here in my dream tonight and remember the solution and dream in the morning.”
- Smoke Therapy- Send your message via God to a deceased-loved-one if they are beyond a text or phone call. Write your heart out about your regret on a piece of paper, read it out loud to yourself and them. Place the paper in your sink and set it on fire, so the message is cleansed by fire and sent to heaven by smoke. Then, turn on the water to carry the ashes to the rest of the world.
- Mirror Therapy– Read step number two to yourself in front of a mirror. Stop between each sentence and look yourself in the eye. Your eyes are the windows to your soul, so give yourself a deep-soul-talk. Then repeat step number two.
I have personally used both Mirror Therapy and Smoke Therapy to deal with regret I experienced after the death of my mother. I found it immensely helpful. God is great at passing on messages.
It is okay to have regrets. Regret is a reminder that we are human, and as humans, we make mistakes. To make mistakes is human. To suffer from regret is a choice. May your humanity become a hug for the heart that heals the soul.
What is your biggest regret, and how did you handle it? Leave your answer in the comments. It may be helpful to readers still dealing with regret. another PATHEOS blog that explores the challenges of COVID sheltering is https://www.patheos.com/blogs/aboveandbeyondthe5senses/2020/06/covid-call-me-worthy-of-shelter/
Please enjoy your Dreaming Healing Show show.
About the guest: Author CODI SHEWAN spent two decades working in the death-care profession until in 2014 he leaped from an executive position in corporate funeral services to the entrepreneurial world. As a consultant and speaker, he’s on a mission to redefine “legacy” as something that you personify, each day of your life. Codi says, “You can realize the power of your own positive influence while you’re still here.” Learn more @ https://www.everydaylegacy.com/
About the author: Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos: aka The Queen of Dreams Syndicated Columnist, PR Guru, VIDEO Podcaster/Show Host Dreaming Healing, 3-time Breast Cancer Survivor, multi-award-winning author, and Dream Expert seen on Dr. Oz, DOCTORS, NBC, & CBS. Divine Dreams diagnose her illness. Kat and Duke U Radiologist Dr. Larry Burk co-wrote, (2018 Nautilus Award Winner) Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She’s an Author/Lecturer Keynote who promotes patient advocacy and connecting with Divine-guidance through Dreams. “Don’t tell God how big your problems are. Tell your problems how big your God is.” Learn more @ www.KathleenOKeefeKanavos.com
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