7 Gifts To Give Yourself

The gifts are all wrapped and the anticipation of what is underneath the wrap and ribbon flourishes, for both children and adults. But have you given yourself a gift? Ah, it may sound horribly selfish, but trust me when I said that although these don’t come wrapped, it is something that can be passed down through the generations. You deserve it!

1. Give yourself permission to STAND UP FOR YOURSELF – Stop apologizing for others and start standing up of yourself. Stop saying ‘I am sorry’ when there is really nothing you are sorry about. Don’t apologize for your existence any longer and celebrate who you are. Learn how to say ‘yes’ and how to say ‘no’ and practice doing it.

2. Give yourself permission to WANDER – You don’t have to know the final destination. You don’t have to have all the goals secured. It is okay to wander and to experiment.

3. Give yourself permission to BE IN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS – Start deleting social media people that aren’t in sync with your morals and ethics and instead surround yourself with those that inspire you. It is time to step away from the Billy Bullies, the Negative Nellies, and the Sarcastic Sams. They are just taking up room and using you to take out their own. Be careful of mourning toxic relationships because they aren’t the way you want them to be, or wish you had done this or that differently. Instead, give yourself permission to be in healthy relationships.

4. Give yourself permission to BE IMPERFECT – Stop beating yourself up about your nose, your weight, your money situation, or whatever else you criticize yourself for. Nobody is perfect in body, mind or spirit. We are a work in progress. Spend more time on your progress than your self-judgment. Embrace your own unique self and situation.

5. Give yourself permission to ASK FOR HELP – We learned in school that there are no stupid questions. We learn by asking. We grow by asking. We improve ourselves by asking.

6. Give yourself permission to PLAY – No work and all play…. Playing helps you feel more alive in body, mind and spirit. It keeps your spirits up and helps you reconnect with yourself. It’s time to create, to play, to have fun and to laugh.

7. Give yourself permission to LET GO – Do you have to keep holding that hot coal? Do you feel the need to keep hurting yourself over and over? That relationship that ended that you keep mourning. That job promotion you didn’t get. That bankruptcy that you had to take? Let it go. You have nothing to prove to anyone. Let go of the attachments that are causing everything that you want to happen, to stop making it happen.