Dalai Lama’s ‘Sexist’ Snafu?

Dalai Lama’s ‘Sexist’ Snafu? May 19, 2015

Over the weekend, the Dalai Lama spoke about his prospects for reincarnation, telling the UK’s Sunday Times that he may come back as a “mischievous blonde woman” adding that “then her face must be very attractive” or “nobody pay much attention.”

Tenzin Gyatso - 14th Dalai Lama
Tenzin Gyatso – 14th Dalai Lama, 2012 (photo by Christopher Michel, flickr C.C.)

Fellow Patheos writer Elizabeth Scalia responds:

Got that? The Dalai Lama says if a woman isn’t pretty, no one will pay attention to her. Her looks are her passport to credibility. And no one is screaming of fainting about it.

This on her Catholic Channel blog in a post called “Sexist Dalai Lama gets a Pass; Kirsten Powers Doesn’t.”  Scalia suggests that the Dalai Lama:

…never has to defend the celibacy of his monks and nuns; he is never denigrated as an “old celibate male in a dress.” He never has to defend his teaching on homosexuality:

In his book Beyond Dogma** , the current Dalai Lama clarifies the Buddhist view: “A sexual act is deemed proper when the couples use the organs intended for sexual intercourse and nothing else . . . homosexuality, whether it is between men or between women, is not improper in itself. What is improper is the use of organs already defined as inappropriate for sexual contact.”

Oy! That tracks so closely to Catholic teaching you’d think he’d be made to pay for it.

But he’s not; he gets the free pass. All he has to do is smile, and wave and not be Catholic, or any manner of orthodox Christian or Jew… [read the full post here]

Scalia clarifies with the ** that current editions of the book no longer say this, and concludes that the “cool kids in the cafeteria keep their ironic silence.”

To clarify for Scalia and any others who may not know, the Dalai Lama has been called to task for his remarks on homosexuality. There is a section detailing his remarks in Damien Keown’s Very Short Introduction to Buddhist Ethics, wherein it is pointed out at the outset that many Buddhist views on sexuality run along similar lines as Christian ones. On the Dalai Lama on homosexuality, we read:

The Dalai Lama pointed out that Buddhist precepts take into account the time, culture, and society in which they originate. For example, monks wore saffron because at the time it was conventional in India for poor people to wear saffron. ‘If homosexuality is part of accepted norms’, he suggested, ‘it is possible that it would be acceptable.’ ‘However’, he went on, ‘no single person or teacher can redefine precepts. I do not have the authority to redefine these precepts since no one can make a unilateral decision or issue a decree.’ He concluded, ‘Such a redefinition can only come out of sangha discussions within the various Buddhist traditions. It is not unprecedented in the history of Buddhism to redefine issues, but it has to be done on the collective level.’ He added that it would be helpful to do more research on the origins of the precepts about sex. (p.64)

In a 1997 article he expressed concern for gay and lesbian people and the desire that they be granted full human rights:

“His Holiness was greatly concerned by reports made available to him regarding violence and discrimination against gay and lesbian people. His Holiness opposes violence and discrimination based on sexual orientation. He urges respect, tolerance, compassion, and the full recognition of human rights for all,” said Office of Tibet spokesman Dawa Tsering.”


As for the ‘very attractive’ quote, I’m left scratching my head. It’s puzzling at the least to read a religious leader saying that “nobody [will] pay much attention” to a female Dalai Lama who is not “very attractive.”

If he was telling a joke, which he often does, then it doesn’t land well.

Some context that might help: “mischievous” might remind us of the 6th Dalai Lama, who, legend has it, often got drunk and snuck out of the Potala Palace to chase girls. His reign was short, he died in his early 20s under somewhat mysterious circumstances, and potentially disastrous for the Tibetan people. Tibetan Buddhists look to the Dalai Lama as an incarnation of the Bodhisattva of Compassion, a wise leader for a people in diaspora. The last thing Tibetans would look forward to in a future Dalai Lama is mischief.

A “blonde” would, most obviously, suggest a rebirth outside the Tibetan community, which would make for the first non-Tibetan Dalai Lama (though a growing number of non-Tibetans have been recognized as reincarnations of other masters).

An “woman” would likewise shock traditionalists, as again there has never been a female Dalai Lama and only a very small number of female reincarnated teachers.

And recall that the Chinese government has claimed that they will choose the next Dalai Lama, effectively taking control of the top two lines of reincarnated teachers for the Gelukpa school of Tibetan Buddhism, so all of this doubtless has them in mind.

As for the rest of what the Dalai Lama said, I’m not sure what to say. Perhaps it was a comment on contemporary superficiality (perhaps he’s been watching Fox News). Perhaps you’d let him off the hook a bit more than we would a Western religious leader, saying he didn’t realize the upset this would cause. Perhaps you’re tired of the internet outrage machine getting up in arms about some new thing each day.

I’ll be interested in hearing what you have to think. So use the comments section for thoughtful discussion and for a quick and easy way to voice your opinion (for clarity’s sake, ‘outrageous’ means you think this was indeed a sexist comment and you’re outraged while ‘overblown’ means you think it’s not such a big deal):

The Dalai Lama’s quote: outrageous or overblown


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  • terremoto415

    Well, that joke went over about as well as this one.


  • Dagnabbit_42

    I can’t do the survey/poll.

    The quote was neither outrageous (it was good-humored and cheeky) nor overblown. How can it be “overblown” if nobody at all called much attention to it outside a narrow niche of professionally interested persons?

    • justinwhitaker

      as noted, (for clarity’s sake, ‘outrageous’ means you think this was indeed a sexist comment and you’re outraged while ‘overblown’ means you think it’s not such a big deal)

  • Sangha Tash

    The Dalai Lama is a fraud. And this comment reflects his true nature.He talks of peace and tolerance abroad and destroys it in the Tibetan exile community. He talks of harmony and has caused division amongst Buddhists. He talks of kindness and eats veal. He is the worst example of a Buddhist, let alone a monk or a human

    • Karze

      Another Atsi Khenpo group.

    • Kunchok

      Sang ha Tash, I can sense that you are deeply depressed.

  • Dakini Designer

    Wow can it get any worse. The world’s most famous “Buddhist” talks about
    reincarnation in this way? I’m so grateful this politician is not my teacher. And to
    say a woman will only receive attention if her face is attractive…what a creep. Forget all that stuff Buddha taught about cultivating a good heart hey! AND what’s with the mischievous bit your “holiness”?

  • perspective

    The Dalai Lama as most people perceive him, as a humble, compassionate proponent of freedom, is a product of great marketing and propaganda built up over decades which is why a comment from him such as this seems such a surprise. If people were aware of the slavery that existed in Tibet under his rule, the hundreds of lives lost in a messy 15 year CIA backed Guerilla war with China and the religious division and discrimination that he has caused within the Tibetan exile community and Buddhist world then I believe people would not be surprised in the least with his sexist comments

    • Karze

      Tibetans, Chinese and almost all countries with exception of few Western countries have similar social structure before 1950. In Tibet it was feudalism, while in USA its Black slavery, in China the situation was worst than Tibet.

      Every country has CIA aka secret service including the Western and China. So why its so bad if Tibetan sought help from USA to defend the Chinese invasion. China sought Russian and West to repel the Japanese.

      CIA came into picture as US government was not willing to help openly. Its ridiculous that world expect the Dalai Lama to work for world while world is totally indifferent to Tibetan suffering just to business and their narrow political games.

    • Buzzby19491

      Thank you for the paid political announcement from our friends in the People’s Republic of China.

    • Kunchok

      Perspective, This means that you alone are awaken and intelligence and rest all are fool. Ha ha. There are millions around the world, including highly intellectuals; scientists, writers and leaders who admires and follow HHDL. How come you alone more intelligence than those millions others…!!

  • Joyfully

    I think it’s cool that you and E. Scalia are having this conversation in such a respectful way.

  • Karze

    Will E Scalia condemn the slavery preached in Bible.

  • Karze

    I guess she one of those who believes the world was created 6000 years ago in one week – according to genesis in Bible.

    She should compare message of Bible and that of the Dalai Lama and see which is more compatible with reason and present day.

  • Elizabeth Slough-Mills

    I hope the feminazis finally managed to shoot themselves in the foot with this one. I cannot imagine having a life so empty that the only thing you have to do with your time is troll the Internet for excuses to express outrage. Elizabeth Scalia needs to get over herself.

  • Dalai Lama has so many monks sitting there singing prayers as if our supernatural Father Allah is deaf. Allah understands His Word and not the prayers of Yahweh.

    So, you can see how many Anti-christs are there in the world. In Jesus, everyone is to give his own account to God.

  • Frank Caruthers

    He was joking! And not just joking, but parodying sexism. How is it that so many people have blinders that prevent them from seeing when someone is on their side?

  • Buzzby19491

    Does HHDL have to say “I’m just screwing with your head!” in order for people to recognize when he’s playing around? Making a joke about sexism isn’t sexism unless the listener is without a sense of humor.

  • dagobarbz

    And yet, he gets plenty of attention in the incarnation of a small, brown, potato-like humanoid. So there’s that…is it the robes?

  • Crater

    I think Catholics are going through an extremely defensive period due to the difficult to explain and difficult to accept shifts and pronouncements and actions Francis has been undertaking. His has injected the Roman church into the center of controversy and trendy politics for his own reasons that have befuddled many Catholics. I think Scalia’s touchy criticism reflects this general unease. It also reflects a lack of knowledge about the Dalai Lama, his personality, and great humanity. Reaction is overblown.

  • It was a simple joke. It also showed that he is aware of how sexism works in our society. Anyone who thinks his comments were outrageous is either a moron or a prude.