3 Common EXCUSES that Keep us Stuck with an Unhappy Marriage

1.  I can’t help how I feel, and I’m just not feeling it anymore.

Just the other day, I was watching a morning news program, and they were talking about why some marriages end.  One of the commentators said, “Well, the heart wants what the hearts wants.”

This is true…I guess.   But, I seriously wanted to turn off the TV when I heard this, because this one excuse has caused so many of us to make terrible decisions when it comes to our relationships.  Our hearts are fickle.  They can be good and gracious, but they can also be deceitful and hateful.  Our desires can change on a daily basis, so we can’t trust our hearts.  The Bible has a lot to say about this too.

From their callous hearts comes iniquity;

their evil imaginations have no limits.

Psalm 73:7

Trust in the Lord with all your heart

and lean not on your own understanding;

Proverbs 3:5

Above all else, guard your heart,

for everything you do flows from it.

Proverbs 4:23

A person may think their own ways are right,

but the Lord weighs the heart.

Proverbs 21:2

There will be times when we won’t find our spouse to be very desirable.  Other times, our heart will flutter when he/she walks in the room.  Some days, we will love the sound of his/her voice.  Other days, that sound will hit us like fingernails on a chalkboard.  This doesn’t mean we don’t love each other.  And, it’s definitely not an excuse to get romantically involved with someone we find attractive at work.  In fact, there’s never a reason or justification for an affair.  Those moments when we’re frustrated with our marriage and tired of the way things are is the very time that we need to guard our hearts the most.  

It’s true; the heart wants what the heart wants.  But, we aren’t helpless.  We can train our hearts to want the right things when we turn our hearts to God.  At times, this will be hard, but it will save our marriage and keep our hearts in the right place.

Sometimes we just need to try something new TOGETHER.  Read “The BEST Kept Secret to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great” for more on this.

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