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In Secret #6, the happiest spouses I researched recognize when their expectations are pure fantasy and stop themselves from thinking things like, “If he/she really love me, he/she would …” Instead they shift to being grateful for the ways their pluses are uniquely wired, and the ways they can and do meet their needs well.
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Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of eye-opening, research-based books about men, women and relationships, including For Women Only, For Men Only, the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage, and her newest book, Through A Man’s Eyes. A Harvard-trained social researcher and popular speaker, her ﬁndings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, and the New York Times. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.