#3 Talk it through—but assume the best, first
Going back to the fuming wife, she can address this with her husband—and definitely should address it if it’s become a pattern with him. But she should do it from the assumption that he wants time with her, just as much as she does with him. Assume that he wants to make her happy, rather than he just doesn’t care. That will undoubtedly change how she speaks to him – and how he responds.
My recommendation for this particular couple? Perhaps it’s time for them to call a truce, ask for and offer forgiveness, book that sitter. . . and maybe plan that dessert after all.
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