3 Reasons Why Your Wife Won’t Just Tell You What She Wants

Reason #1: If You Make the Effort To Figure It Out, It Means She’s Worth the Effort 

You know how you look confident but on the inside you privately worry whether you measure up? Well, your wife has a different private worry: somewhere deep inside, every day, she wonders whether she is worth loving. That question never goes away (just like you probably never get to a point where you feel as confident as you look). So each day, she’s looking for your signals as to the answer to that question. It reassures her that she must be worth loving when you make an effort to understand what she needs and wants rather than making her tell you. For example, it reassures her that she’s special when you study her enough to know that she is completely frazzled and that it would mean a lot if you offered to take the kids so she can rest—without her having to tell you that.