3 Ways Porn Hurts the Heart of Your Wife

Reason #2: Porn Hurts Your Wife’s Heart By . . . Making Her Believe You Have an Emotional Connection and Love for Someone Other Than Her

Our female brains are wired differently than yours to connect sexual attraction/involvement with emotional connection and love. Although there are certainly exceptions, we women aren’t usually sexually tempted by a man unless we’re emotionally attracted to and connected with him. And of course if we’re married, we think there’s no way we would “let” ourselves become emotionally attracted to someone other than the man we love. Thus, if you’re sexually tempted by other women (even images of them), we instinctively feel you must also be “letting yourself” get emotionally attracted and connecting to these other women. You must have some love for them, somehow. And that makes what might otherwise be seen as a purely emotionless sexual and physical experience (see #1) seem like a painful betrayal. The wounded heart cries, “but you promised to love me and me alone!”