Affirmation In The Bedroom Is The Deepest Salve For His Secret Vulnerability
Women often tend to misunderstand what physical intimacy means to our man. We think of it as a physical need—which can often feel quite optional, especially when our physical need is sleep!
What we must understand is that the importance of sex for a man is primarily emotional. When he knows that you desire him, it gives him confidence about how he’s doing in every other area of his life! When you sexually flirt with him, respond to him in the bedroom, or even initiate intimacy, it says something very powerful to those vulnerable places in his heart: “I do desire you . . . you do measure up . . . you are not alone.”
There are always exceptions but most likely, your man is secretly longing for sexual connection not primarily for physical pleasure, but for a deep connection with you, the woman he loves, and for the deep reassurance that you care, that you believe in him, and he is worth you being one with him in every way.
Beneath the rugged and tough exterior of your man is a much softer and deeper part that he keeps hidden. Learning and understanding these four inner thoughts in his mind and heart will help unlock new levels of your relationship that you may have never seen.
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Shaunti Feldhahn loves sharing eye-opening information that helps people thrive in life and relationships. She herself started out with a Harvard graduate degree and Wall Street credentials but no clue about life. After an unexpected shift into relationship research for average people like her, she now is a popular speaker and author of best-selling books about men, women and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).
Her latest book, Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional for Lasting Peace in Busy Life, focuses on a journey to rest even with life’s constant demands.
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