Your Wife Needs You to Tell Her She’s Beautiful

Your Wife Needs You to Tell Her She’s Beautiful November 19, 2018

Men, have you ever had a date with your wife take a turn for the worse and you didn’t know why? You’d probably both been looking forward to date night, with some time away from the kids and a special outing planned. But by the time you got to your destination your wife was in a sour mood that simply mystified you. Well, maybe you just needed to focus in and take a closer look at what was right in front of you. Your wife probably fixed herself up to look her best for you and for your evening out together. Maybe you did notice but the thought passed through your mind quickly with the words left unsaid. Either way, from your wife’s perspective (because, you know, she can’t read your mind) you didn’t notice at all.

You might be thinking: I always think my wife looks beautiful, and surely she knows it! But does she? How will she know, unless you tell her so? Especially in situations where she puts in extra effort to look nice for the occasion and for you. Out of all the areas where men are encouraged to share their thoughts and feelings with their wife, this is one of the most important. Let me explain why….

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  • Inquiring Brain

    Tell her she’s beautiful? I used to. But after a few years of being ignored and rejected it seemed fruitless. In the past few months I’ve been told my abdomen is the most disgusting thing she’s seen (although hers is the same size or bigger) and that in general I’m repulsive.
    That in spite of treating her nice, buying her flowers about every other week, candy, helping with the house, etc. Plus sexual contact a couple times in the last year. Always a reason why not.
    At first I tried to keep the compliments going, but she does not seem to care.
    Unfortunately it’s not always that simple.

  • John Lee Pettimore

    Sounds toxic. But, friend, you own some of this. Sounds like you’ve let yourself go and become undesirable physically (and maybe emotionally) in her eyes.

    Take your focus off her. Become the best you that you can be. She’ll come around…or you’ll be ready for the next one. Win/win either way.

  • Inquiring Brain

    First of all, the focus is off her. Second, I am not looking for a “next one”. Third, she has no intention of coming around.

    There is much more to the story, but it gets a little long. I don’t expect you to make an appropriate reply since you don’t have all the information. The marriage started based on a hidden agenda that I was unaware of.

    The point is, many things are expected of men that are not expected of women. If women do not meet expectations then it’s ok because, well, they’re women. If men do not meet expectations we are pigs.

  • John Lee Pettimore

    Sounds like you have your mind made up.

    Fair seas, friend….

  • Inquiring Brain

    I accept reality. I am open to any improvements that can be made. It takes two.