Cave Mode

Cave Mode February 27, 2019

In the interest of sharing a personal and ministry update, I wanted to let you know that the next few months are going to be an interesting season for Jeff and me. I’m going to go into what my staff jokingly refers to as “Cave Mode.”

Here’s the thing: Jeff and I are finishing up two years of research for our next book – but we’re quite behind on the actual book deadline. This is in part due to the usual craziness but also because, as many of you know, my father had a stroke last year. I’ve really wanted and needed to be more available for my family during this season. But now the book HAS to get done. I wish we could escape to some cute cabin in the mountains to get weeks of focused writing done, but since we have kids and speaking schedules, that just isn’t gonna happen! But we ARE going to be hitting it hard to finish the final survey and write the book, which investigates why money causes “issues” in 94% of relationships, and what to do about it (in ways that have everything to do with the relationship and nothing to do with money!) If you want to learn more about the book, and our partnership with Thrivent’s Love and Money project, click here.

So now I have to go into my “cave” and not come out until the work is done. I don’t have meetings, I don’t do radio interviews and I write all of my blogs and content ahead of time (so you’ll still see new content). Otherwise I’m speaking at events and writing this book and that’s it. I apologize in advance that my staff will be responding to all of my emails, and I’m probably not going to be able to respond to Facebook or Twitter comments.

Speaking of my staff . . . not only would I appreciate your prayers, but my staff would as well! Not only are they going to have to run everything without me, but there just might have been a pattern in the past (ahem) where I become a wee bit of a grouchy bear in cave mode, who comes out of her cave to bark, “Do this! Don’t do that! Grrrr!” and then disappears back into her cave. (Yeah. I’m working on that.)

But most specifically, we’d appreciate prayers for wisdom and anointing over this book, which really does have the potential to transform many, many marriages. But we need wisdom from the Lord to know how to distill it into simple, “Aha!” moments. So, stay tuned as we navigate the next few months. We’ll keep you posted on how things are going—at the very least, my staff can report back that I’m emerging once in awhile to see the light of day. And at some point the project will be completed and we will be so excited to have a new, incredibly important topic to cover that affects nearly every marriage relationship!   

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Shaunti Feldhahn loves sharing eye-opening information that helps people thrive in life and relationships. She herself started out with a Harvard graduate degree and Wall Street credentials but no clue about life. After an unexpected shift into relationship research for average people like her, she now is a popular speaker and author of best-selling books about men, women and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).

Her latest book, Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional for Lasting Peace in Busy Life, focuses on a journey to rest even with life’s constant demands.

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