Why Your Wife Wants to Text You All Day

Husbands need to develop the skill of listening to their wife.

What he was really saying was that he doesn’t understand how to listen to his wife. She doesn’t want his permission to plan a menu; she craves his attention and wants to share a piece of herself with him. Even though it may seem trivial, it’s important to call her back or send a quick text that asks a question about at least one of the topics his wife is sharing with him. It only takes a few minutes, but it will help her feel heard and valued. When her relational needs are met, he’ll find himself in fewer arguments over “the little things.”

I told him to try listening in a more connected way for a few weeks, and then find time to tell her that he values her and wants to stay in touch with what’s going on. He needs to also explain that sometimes it’s overwhelming for him to hear about every little thing—especially in the middle of an intense day at work—because he can’t discern what the most important things are.