A Letter to Our Teenage Sons Who Try to Treat Girls With Respect

DID YOU KNOW?

Girls have far more self-doubt than you realize—your future wife included. So the choices you make now will impact the rest of your life.

The choices you make now in coping with visual temptation will impact the rest of your life, especially your future marriage. Because the habits you develop now could either devastate your wife or honor her. I know you’re not thinking about your future wife right now. But you have the opportunity (let me go a bit further—you have the responsibility) to develop good habits now that will impact that most important future relationship. 

You don’t realize this, but all the girls around you that you think are some kind of exotic alien species—don’t feel so exotic. In fact, nearly every single one of those beautiful, confident-looking girls doubts whether she’s beautiful. And the problem is that right now you’re not in a lifetime relationship with any of them. But at some point you probably will be. And if your future wife sees your eyes affirming the beauty of other women, it’s going to devastate her. Her sense of self and her feelings of security with you are going to be affected by how you deal with visual temptation. Start now to build the good habits that will allow your future girlfriend, and, eventually, your future wife, to feel safe, secure, beautiful, and loved.