Strategy #1: Redirect your view.
Develop the reflex action of quickly shifting your eyes somewhere else when an enticing image appears before you, whether it’s in real life or onscreen.
Over and over, guys tell me that this technique of “bouncing your eyes” really works! It becomes a habit that is a whole lot easier to maintain than trying to pull back thoughts that have already been spurred by a prolonged look.
When Jeff and I were newlyweds in New York, my husband used to look up to the sky periodically as we walked along the sidewalk. I couldn’t figure out what was going on until he finally told me he was making an effort to respect me by redirecting his view when a temptingly attractive woman passed by.
There also might be times when you need to “bounce your eyes” by changing channels or leaving a website until a certain scene or commercial is over.
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