Think Before You Blurt!
We can change this pattern by learning to think before we blurt. It is easy enough in theory, but in practice will require the same attentiveness you put into learning how to think before you spoke as a kid. It means learning those situations where you’ll have a tendency to throw something out there that could hurt your man’s feelings without you ever intending to.
For example, any time you see him do something that seems odd, or foolish, or like a bad choice, instead of just throwing out “why ______?” stop and realize that not only might he have a perfectly good reason, but he’s going to interpret your questioning as criticism. And let’s be honest: in a way, he’s right. After all, you wouldn’t be mentioning it at all if you thought he was on the right track, would you?
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