Marriages CAN Be Happy For A Lifetime!

Research Proves Resolving Conflict Quickly Makes a Big Difference

What she said about resolving conflict is one of those little things that makes a big, big difference. It is exactly what I found in the research with the happiest couples for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. As we put it in the book: “Highly happy couples find that when they can’t resolve conflict and anger before bedtime, they choose to sleep on it. If anger remains in the morning, they don’t let it go unresolved; they deal with it.” 

We also discovered the reverse was true . . . and it should lead all of us to ask: am I letting things go instead of dealing with it? Forty-one percent of struggling couples who were not so happy, not only went to be angry, but reported not resolving the conflict the next day. By comparison, only five percent of highly happy couples did not resolve the conflict that night or the next day.