Financial Friction? Money Strategies that Will Help Your Marriage

Unity Builder #3: Create Joint Ownership Of Your Finances

This is the next step after you dismantle the dangerous ‘separate’ systems: build ones that institutionalize one-ness instead! If you want unity in marriage, there is no way around complete transparency in money matters. If there are things you have been holding back, now is the time to bring everything into the open.

To be clear: This doesn’t mean that you can’t use different accounts for convenience, or that you have to both be equally involved in paying the bills! But it does mean there can’t be anything hidden, and that you two are fully on the same page. While there is no one “right” way to arrange your finances, both of you should be fully aware of and have access to everything.

Some of you will have done this from the beginning. For others, this will be a huge step of faith. If your spouse takes that step of trust, honor it. Show them how thankful you are. And if you need someone to help you work through these issues, reach out to a qualified counselor or coach who shares the value of getting you to full transparency.