Spend More Effort Preparing For Your Marriage Than Planning Your Wedding
You’re ready to commit your lives to one another. Now, consider how you’re spending your time and energy during this engagement season. Are you investing more in preparing to get married or in preparing to be married? Investments you can make in your marriage now include pre-marital counseling, seeking out mentors who can pour their wisdom and experience into your lives, and learning more about relationships and marriage.
Even if pre-marital counseling might have to look different (via Zoom!) this year, there is so much you can do to truly prepare. In particular, I’ve been so grateful that thousands of churches recommend that engaged couples read For Women Only: What You Need To Know about the Inner Lives of Men and For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women. One such church came up with a brilliant idea that we have recommended ever since: each of you read the book that describes yourself and mark up and make notes on what applies to you and what doesn’t. Then trade books. You’ll now be reading a personalized copy to take a tour into the most intimate thoughts, fears, and needs of this most important person in your life.
No matter what your planning and preparations look like, take joy in anticipating and walking through your big day. It will go faster than you can imagine. Savor the moments, be fully present. Be okay with those things that may not quite work the way you wanted them to. And enjoy the fact that at the end of the day, you’ll be married—married!—and that is what’s most important of all.
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Shaunti Feldhahn loves sharing eye-opening information that helps people thrive in life and relationships. She herself started out with a Harvard graduate degree and Wall Street credentials but no clue about life. After an unexpected shift into relationship research for average people like her, she now is a popular speaker and author of best-selling books about men, women and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).
Her latest book, Thriving in Love and Money, uncovers the issues that cause money conflicts and provide couples with truths that are relationship game-changers. Because you need a better relationship, not just a better budget.
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