Men Feel Enormous Pressure To Provide For Their Family
Most men feel an immense pressure to provide (even if you are both working): a pressure that would be there even if you spent hardly anything. Taking care of his wife and family is a man’s way of saying “I love you”—and showing that he is worthy of you. And that comes with much more insecurity than you might realize. Providing is one of the key areas where men experience the ongoing risk of failure. Most men are constantly, subconsciously, evaluating their current and future earnings prospects, and whether they can provide “enough” to support the family and make them happy.
Keep all that underground insecurity in mind . . . and add on a husband seeing “extra” spending (even if it is in the budget and isn’t really “extra”), and you can see why some men are unusually sensitive. Your husband might be one of them. And if he isn’t controlling in any other area, his reaction likely isn’t about control but fear: a deep, palpable fear that he won’t be able to keep up. It may not necessarily be a logical feeling, but it is very deep. And very common.
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